boots in leaves

 

When I think about why I started my blog, it was purely to have an outlet for myself. A place to write my thoughts so they weren’t scrambling around my head, and a platform where I could share what inspires me, in the hopes that someone might relate too.

But now when I think about writing a post, in the back of my mind is the thought that I want to write what people want to read. What if they are not interested and can’t relate? What if they don’t fancy clicking on that one today?

I’ve started to realise that this doesn’t matter. I started it for myself, and that’s how it should continue. You shouldn’t write for the sole purpose of others. The content that you produce where you stay true to yourself, is the one which you feel the most proud of once its published, and it’s usually the one that your readers like the most too. I think authenticty really does stand out and keeps people coming back.

Thankfully I don’t feel like I have veered too much of this road, but if I hadn’t of come to this conclusion sooner it may of been different. I’m thinking it of being a little nudge to keep me on the right track.

So now when I’m braining post ideas, I’m going to focus on whats happening in my life currently, or what I think I should write, instead of wondering what might get the most views.

There won’t be a difference to what I put out there as I don’t publish any posts I’m not happy with, but maybe I won’t be feeling as stuck for post ideas as I have been the last few weeks!

Why did you start a blog? Do you blog for yourself?

berries on tree

 

I’ve spoken before all about why you should meditate, but I wanted to give you a step by step guide where you can start from if you’re a complete beginner.

I know that sometimes it can be incredibly intimidating and the words ‘mindfulness’ and ‘meditation’ is bashed around so often these days, so hopefully this might make it feel more achievable for you or convince you to give it a go if you haven’t felt inclined to before.

  • Firstly, plan ahead and choose a time of day you want to start. Whether that’s before going to work, or after you’ve come home and had a shower, putting it in the diary, (even if it’s just in your head) makes you a lot more likely to actually do it.
  • Start slowly. Personally, I would recommend doing 5 minutes a day 2-3 times a week to begin with. There’s no point rushing off and trying to do 20 minutes if you’re only going to do it once, that’s just not how it works I’m afraid.
  • Pick a type. There’s plenty of different meditations to use out there, you can use guided meditations on Youtube or download apps such as Calm and Headspace, which both have trials for a selected amount of time to get you used to meditating. I would really recommend the Headspace one that runs for 10 days and is free for getting started.
  • Choose your location wisely. If you’re trying it out for the first time, I wouldn’t recommend doing it on public transport or anywhere unfamiliar. You can sit on your bed, or even lie down with your eyes closed (preferably), and focus on the rhythm of your breath.
  • There is no ‘good’ or ‘bad’ meditation. With meditating, we have no labels. Aslong as you focus on your breathing for A SECOND, you’re meditating. There’s no magic trick here. It really is that simple.

 

I hope this has come in handy if you were looking for something along these lines, if you give it a go for the first time I would LOVE to hear how it went?

products on table

 

It’s been a hot minute since I updated you guys on products I’m trying out, and because these are some of my favourite posts to read I thought its about time I got you updated.

The first two products I actually won in a giveaway! I’ve only used the Dr Jart Beauty Balm  once so far, but was honestly so impressed. It says its a hybrid between makeup and skincare, and it actually gives a surprising amount of coverage. It’s extremely natural looking on the skin and the fact that it’s only £8.00 from Boots means I will *most likely* be repurchasing.

I have a love-hate relationship with rose scented stuff, because I don’t like the powdery ‘granny’ smell, but this little guy is nothing like that. The Rose Salve  seems to be a popular product in a beauty lovers world and I can totally see why. I will go as far to say that it’s becoming my favourite lip balm ever. Yup, I’m going with it! Have I mentioned it also smells like an absolute dream?

I recently become an ambassador from the Botanics range in Boots, which I’m so excited about! They sent me a few products to test out including the Face Scrub & Radiance Balm. I’ve only used the products a couple of times, but the face scrub is one thats super gentle, which is great for my sensitive skin, but still does a great job on removing dead face skin *ugh why did I just say that?*

The radiance balm is becoming another favourite as it doesn’t feel tacky or greasy, just leaves the skin looking really dewy. Plus, its actually super watery which I didn’t expect but that means it doesn’t clog my skin up at all and leaves me with no breakouts, yay!

Have you been testing out any new products recently, I would love to hear what?!

girl with flowers

 

I definitely didn’t grow up as the most confident person, and have struggled with it a lot. I feel like over the past year I’ve become more confident in myself (albeit I’m still not all the way there), and it’s all down to these little things..

POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS/SELF-TALK

The way we talk to ourselves is so so important. I really try to work on talking positively and being kind to myself. I regularly do affirmations which always makes me feel better, I don’t read them out loud, just saying them to yourself in your head works too! Even if we’re in a situation where we are the ones to blame, try to work out the positives and what you’ve learned is always a good thing.

FAKING IT

Sometimes the best way to be confident is to fake it. I’m a fairly shy person in real life, but in situations where I feel nervous I always cope better when I’m putting on a confident front. In some cases my BF looks at me really surprised when he sees me being very confident and chatty in social situations, because it’s what I’m far from. It’s not trying to be something you’re not, it’s just a little boost if all else fails.

YOU DO YOU

We all have those little things that give us confidence. For you it may be rocking a red lip, for me it’s wearing something I’m comfortable in. Maybe you have to give yourself a mini pep talk before an important morning, if it works, do it. I like to imagine the situation I’m going to be in going well, it really comforts me. This sounds silly too but confidence really does start to improve when you get a bit older. Maybe its the life experience you have behind yourself, or you get more familiar with situations.

LIST YOUR AMAZING QUALITIES

It sounds a bit cheesy doesn’t it? But I really rate it. Honestly, I have lists of things I like about myself in my phone & notebooks, and once I start writing them down I always feel a bit more of pep in my step, and that actually, I’m pretty awesome. 😉

 

How do you gain self-confidence?

 

 

There’s been plenty of talk all about having a blog niche, and this post from Martha explaining why having one has benefited her is a great read.

It really got me thinking about being a ‘lifestyle blogger’, is that a niche?

In my opinion, the term ‘lifestyle’ means everything. Beauty, mental health, travel. But, that’s what I love about it . I like that I can blog about so many various things, and mix it up from time to time too. Some posts I much prefer to write than others, but at the end of the day I would never post something I was unhappy with. I love personal posts. They are what my blog really thrives off. However, I know ‘fashion’ content is a lot more out of my comfort area, but that’s not to say I want to disregard it entirely.

If I classed myself to just one topic, such as mental health, I’m afraid that the words would dry up, and I wouldn’t love blogging as much as I do now. I would feel the pressure, and it would probably make me want to blog about other things even more!

I don’t want to limit my creativity and do anything that would make me feel different about my little space on the web. Also, isn’t the beauty of blogging that you can blog about whatever you want? There are no rules.

Whilst I’m sure having a blogging niche can you give you SO many more opportunities, I’m think I will be sticking to ‘lifestyle blogger’ for now.

Do you have a blog niche?