If you guys follow me on online and read this blog, you’ll know that I love doing personal posts, and I try my best to be 100% honest and authentic. It is so important to me.

For me, I want to read blogs that speak of substance, that have things to say, and that doesn’t apologise for it. I always strive to publish content that I love and that I think might help anyone out a bit. Whether thats a new beauty product I love or how I’ve dealt with panic attacks. So with that in mind, I came up with this post.

 

 

These are all the things that I haven’t posted on social media.

  • Due to my anxiety and fear of flying, we’ve missed out on 2 holidays this year. This was a very low and testing time for me and my boyfriend, but has ultimately brought us closer which I’m thankful for. I really try to see the positive in shitty situations. Some times you have to look harder, but it helps.
  • Even though I’m happy with my body, I still have days when I want to stay in bed and eat kitkat chunkys. I feel like most people get this too? If not, everyone!
  • I sometimes feel uninspired with my place here on the internet and wish I had the follower amount of a ‘bigger’ blogger. I know this is kinda bad to say, but sometimes it’s true.

 

 

  • I have two part time jobs and this blog (which I don’t really earn much/if any for), but I worry a lot about money.
  • I want to make blogging my full time career, and I hope I can get there one day.
  • My family are my best friends. I don’t really have ‘friends’ which does make me sad some days, but unfortunately I’ve drifted away from people of my past and haven’t had many opportunities to meet any new ones. Finding friends in your 20’s is freaking hard.
  • I sometimes put too much pressure on myself and forget how far I’ve come, on those days I need to remember that I’m still the same girl who couldn’t leave the house once.
  • I have a very spiritual side that I don’t tend to share too much on the internet
  • Sometimes I get caught in the comparison trap, then feel stupid when I remember that we all are different for a reason.

 

This was very scary to share, but I feel like a weight has been lifted from my shoulders!

What to you think to people sharing on social media? Should they keep some things to themselves or is it nice to see a vulnerable side?

 

With most blog posts ideas, they come to me whilst I’m trying to sleep. Which is a great problem to have, but a girl needs her beauty sleep right?

Today’s post is all about little ways to gain blog traffic, and granted I definitely don’t do all of these, but I hope they give you some inspiration should you need it!

  • Post regularly.
  • Join twitter chats.
  • Use catchy titles.
  • Pin your blog posts on Pinterest.
  • Comment on other blogs.
  • Post on Instagram daily.
  • Use Instagram stories.
  • Be active on social media- regularly.
  • Use good quality images.
  • Make a media kit.
  • Write about different content.
  • Support other bloggers.
  • Have a Facebook page for your blog.
  • Contact brand PR’s.
  • Use the ‘tag’ function on Instagram.
  • Change up your hashtags.
  • Use RT accounts on blog tweets.
  • Follow accounts you like and spread the love.
  • Engage in the ‘Follow Friday’ on Twitter.
  • Pay to advertise on other blogs.
  • Do a giveaway.
  • Make blog business cards.
  • Write a guest post on another blog.
  • Start a blog newsletter.

What’s your top tip to gain blog traffic?

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You guys who read my blog know I’m all about self-improvement. But sometimes the days fly by and before you know it, things have been pushed to the side and all you want to do past 5pm is have a nap, and be fed snacks.

With that in mind I thought for today’s post I would tell you the healthy life habits I’m challenging myself to start doing, and why I came up with them in the first place..

  1. DON’T PRESUME.

I’m not entirely sure when this started, but I’ve noticed that I do it a lot. And its not a fantastic quality I want to have. I always presume that people haven’t done the things I asked them to do, and that I’ll have to do them on top of what I already have to do. I know, first world problems.

When actually, they probably might of done them! Give them the bloody benefit of the doubt, girl. I’m panicking and being negative over nothing. Plus, who wants to come home and moan at the BF for not doing the dish-washer. I’m not about that life. (This was quite rambly but I hope you get where I’m coming from)

2. SET BOUNDARIES

This is something I’ve been doing recently, and guess what? Shocker, it works. When you have to have certain people in your life that have a negative impact on you, setting boundaries around them is the best way to go. Unfortunately sometimes you can’t just cut those people out of your life. I try to focus on limiting my time around them to as little as possible, and when they are in the vicinity I try not to give them my whole attention, while I’m sure they love 😉

3. DON’T FEEL GUILTY ABOUT SPENDING MONEY

Because I’m saving for the wedding, I never tend to treat myself and always feel guilty if I buy anything thats not essential i.e food. But in reality, buying yourself a little something now and again really cheers me up, no matter how materialistic that seems. Aslong as I’m reaching my saving goal, I’m allowed to have a little Boots haul when I feel like it! *talking to self*

 

Do you have any new habits you’re trying to do?

 

 

 

 

 

I accept that this is a niche post, because I know when some people hear the terms ‘meditation’ and ‘mindfulness’ they want to slam their head against the wall. If thats you, I wouldn’t suggest reading any further!

BUT, if you’re intrigued, I hope this post may convince you to have a little go, if you want.

I have meditated every day for the last 2 years.

I know, it sounds a bit intense. A bit ‘hippy’. 

But if I put that into context for you, maybe it won’t sound as ‘out there’ as it originally did.

One busy morning I managed to sit in bed before getting up for 5 minutes, focusing on my breathing and intentions for the day. One day I only had time for a 2 minute body scan (using the Calm app). One evening before bed I did 10 minutes meditation using my favourite meditation Youtube channel (positive magazine).

Meditation isn’t sat staring at the wall for half an hour a day. Most experts on the subjects say its better to be more mindful throughout your whole day then force yourself to do it, and I completely agree. Any time you can tune into your body and just ‘sit’ without thinking, focus on your breathing, is so worth it for you and your health. Meditation has so many benefits, most of which you can see within a quick Google search, but I only do it because of how it makes me feel after.

I’m rubbish at forcing myself to do things if I don’t enjoy them. I know after I’ve meditated I will feel happier, calmer, more content and at peace. Yup, all that after only 10 minutes.

Its such a massive part of my life now, and I don’t know what I’d do without it.

I’m telling you, its a game changer.

Have you ever meditated or are you not interested?

 

I feel like the online world could always use a bit more positivity. That’s very like me to say such a statement.

I’ve conjured up a few little ways that you could make your online space a tiny bit more positive, only if you want to, (of course)…

 

THINK ABOUT WHAT YOU POST

I know the great thing about social media, and Twitter specifically, is that you can post instantly. Whatever you want to say, within a few seconds it can be out there forever.

For me personally, I try to refrain from posting negative statements online, as it never makes me feel very good. In fact, if I’m in a shitty mood and want to have a rant all over Twitter, it actually makes me feel a lot worse. Does anyone else get this?

 

GET IT OUT IN REAL LIFE

Having a step back, even having a rant to a loved one about the situation can be much better. Plus, who wants to go down their own timeline seeing their own constant moaning? Not me. There’s not much else that can bring you back to earth than when people reply to your moany tweet with #firstworldproblems.

 

FOLLOW PEOPLE YOU INSPIRE YOU

 

I hugely benefit from following positive people online, and I find that it makes me more positive in turn too. Yes we’re all granted a moan from time to time, but some people complain about anything, and make me want to immediately unfollow. Life is good, girl!

 

GO OFFLINE

This is a bit contradictory, but sometimes the best thing to do in terms of staying positive is limiting your time online. Whenever I feel down, I tend to leave my phone alone, and do some things that make me happier.

I really like using my blog and social media platforms as a positive place, so if I’m not feeling that cheery, I’m surely not going to fake it. It’s always mentioned in research that people who spend more time offline are generally happier human beings, and I can see why that makes sense.

If I have to stay offline for a few more hours a day to be more positive when I’m actually on there, I’m gonna do it.

 

How do you stay positive online?