girl with flowers

 

I definitely didn’t grow up as the most confident person, and have struggled with it a lot. I feel like over the past year I’ve become more confident in myself (albeit I’m still not all the way there), and it’s all down to these little things..

POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS/SELF-TALK

The way we talk to ourselves is so so important. I really try to work on talking positively and being kind to myself. I regularly do affirmations which always makes me feel better, I don’t read them out loud, just saying them to yourself in your head works too! Even if we’re in a situation where we are the ones to blame, try to work out the positives and what you’ve learned is always a good thing.

FAKING IT

Sometimes the best way to be confident is to fake it. I’m a fairly shy person in real life, but in situations where I feel nervous I always cope better when I’m putting on a confident front. In some cases my BF looks at me really surprised when he sees me being very confident and chatty in social situations, because it’s what I’m far from. It’s not trying to be something you’re not, it’s just a little boost if all else fails.

YOU DO YOU

We all have those little things that give us confidence. For you it may be rocking a red lip, for me it’s wearing something I’m comfortable in. Maybe you have to give yourself a mini pep talk before an important morning, if it works, do it. I like to imagine the situation I’m going to be in going well, it really comforts me. This sounds silly too but confidence really does start to improve when you get a bit older. Maybe its the life experience you have behind yourself, or you get more familiar with situations.

LIST YOUR AMAZING QUALITIES

It sounds a bit cheesy doesn’t it? But I really rate it. Honestly, I have lists of things I like about myself in my phone & notebooks, and once I start writing them down I always feel a bit more of pep in my step, and that actually, I’m pretty awesome. 😉

 

How do you gain self-confidence?

 

 

There’s been plenty of talk all about having a blog niche, and this post from Martha explaining why having one has benefited her is a great read.

It really got me thinking about being a ‘lifestyle blogger’, is that a niche?

In my opinion, the term ‘lifestyle’ means everything. Beauty, mental health, travel. But, that’s what I love about it . I like that I can blog about so many various things, and mix it up from time to time too. Some posts I much prefer to write than others, but at the end of the day I would never post something I was unhappy with. I love personal posts. They are what my blog really thrives off. However, I know ‘fashion’ content is a lot more out of my comfort area, but that’s not to say I want to disregard it entirely.

If I classed myself to just one topic, such as mental health, I’m afraid that the words would dry up, and I wouldn’t love blogging as much as I do now. I would feel the pressure, and it would probably make me want to blog about other things even more!

I don’t want to limit my creativity and do anything that would make me feel different about my little space on the web. Also, isn’t the beauty of blogging that you can blog about whatever you want? There are no rules.

Whilst I’m sure having a blogging niche can you give you SO many more opportunities, I’m think I will be sticking to ‘lifestyle blogger’ for now.

Do you have a blog niche?

 

 

girls legs

 

I’ve had several ups and downs on my ‘body journey’ but without going into too much detail, I’ve had long periods of time going from binge-eating for comfort, to really restricted eating and lots of over-exercising. I really do think this part of my life is somewhat finished now and it makes me so sad to think how I treated my body.

Over the past year I’ve really developed a balance with my relationship to food and exercise- and that’s mostly down to yoga. I practice it in some form almost daily, and it reminds me to be kind to myself, to know when to push harder and to know when to slow down. It makes me a more happier person. There’s so many yoga and fitness/balance inspirations out there that help to guide me on my way, so I’ll be sure to link them all down below.

Yoga isn’t just about doing stretches in lycra, its much more than that. Its kind of like a lifestyle. Being kind to your body, and treating it well in all ways.

I recently read a tweet that says the famous motto ‘you never regret a workout’ which personally, I find so triggering. I might be the only one here, but when I hear that it brings back old thoughts and unhealthy patterns. The way I see it, if you’re denying your body rest and the nutrients/fats it needs to function, then working out on top of that is so dangerous. I just wanted to add this in here incase anyone else out there feels the same, your not alone! Rest days are also key, never feel guilty for letting your body recuperate.

I’m so much more kinder to my body now, and whenever I see one of my family members over-doing it in general life, I always like to remind them that you only have one body. Its so so important to cherish, nourish and look after it.

I hope if your reading this after you haven’t worked out all week and just ate a Mcdonalds, girl thats totally fine. We all deserve treats. Never feel guilty about food. I’ve been down that road, and I know its just not worth it.

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Links:

Zanna Van Dijk

Jessica Olie

Yoga Girl

Yoga With Adriene

Cat Meffan

My post about not weighing myself anymore

dresses in a window

 

I got a really great response to my last wedding post, so I want to do lots more of wedding content for you guys before the big day next year. Today I thought I’d tell you some of the things I’ve learnt so far while we’ve been planning..

 

  1. You immediately become obsessed with Pinterest and have a board dedicated to your wedding, of course. Although now at least it doesn’t have to be ‘secret’..
  2. When you find your dress, you will just know that it’s the one for you. Yep, annoying but true! I’m writing this on the afternoon of actually getting my wedding dress and I’m still on such a high, it honestly feels like a dream. I just want to wear it again now!
  3. You will never believe how opinionated everyone is when it comes to YOUR wedding.
  4. There will be some traditions you really love, and others, not so much. And that’s totally okay. Our weddings should reflect who we are as individuals aswell as a couple.
  5. You ask yourself if people really need wedding favours, especially when you’re buying them a meal. Just me?
  6. You kind of have all the power and its incredible, not going to lie. Sure, some things you have to manage, but the fact that you have the final say feels good.
  7. There is always so much to do. Once one task is sorted, its straight onto the next.
  8. All the fuss seems a bit dramatic for one day, but I suppose you are only doing it once, so we might aswell make the most of it!

 

Is there anything you learnt or are learning whilst planning your wedding? I would love to know!

 

I feel like blogging for me is a constant ever-changing journey. But along the way, I’ve learned a few little things that I wanted to share with you today.

ITS NOT AS EASY AS YOU THINK

If you’re not a blogger, chances are you think all it takes is typing a few words on a page and hitting publish, but its so much more than that.

Aswell as thinking of new posts and taking pictures to accompany them, you have to stay active on social media, promote, research other blogs, connect with other bloggers, reach out to brands for collaborations etc. The list is endless. Its very deceiving how much work actually goes into blogging I think.

 

 

HARD WORK PAYS OFF

Its true, it really does in blogging. Since blogging every other day and being active on social media, I’ve received monthly blog views that I didn’t think would ever be possible for me!

All the promoting, writing and snapping shots really does pay off, and feeling proud of your little corner of the internet is bloody great. Any work you put into your blog, whether thats rearranging the layout, dealing with old links or changing up your bio, all adds up to create your side of the web.

 

EVERYONE’S DIFFERENT

There’s been a lot of talk recently about the room for new bloggers. Is it an over-saturated market? Personally, I don’t think so. I think every single blog is unique in itself, because of the person writing it. No two reviews are the same. No two lifestyle experiences are identical. I would hate for anyone out there who wants to blog but feels disheartened to not do it.

With blogging I feel like I have a set of online friends that are so supportive & I’m also doing something I love! It’s a win-win.

 

What have you learned about blogging?