A funk- something we can all relate to. When the brain feels foggy, you become unsure of yourself and your capabilities, and struggle to pull yourself out and be who you once thought you were. It’s a tough place to be, and hopefully after reading this post you’ll feel more able to get back to where you live best.
I think this is the most important thing. Stopping whatever is causing you to stress out is vital. Even if it’s not something you can stop doing (such as a work situation), trying to reduce the amount of mental time you spend on it really will help. Even if you can’t control how much time it takes up in your daily life, you can choose your thoughts. I tend to over-think everything, so especially when I’m going through a tough time, it only makes it worse. Getting a bit of space between you and what’s causing the upset will only make you feel better, trust me. Realising that in fact there are plenty of others things out there (that you still enjoy and are awesome at) is so refreshing and can really lift the fog a little.
Once you’ve given yourself a bit of a time-out, now is the time to make the change. Whatever is making you unhappy needs to be altered, in some way. You can’t go on like this forever. We all deserve to live the life we want. Whether its a relationship that needs some time being inputted into it or maybe you’re feeling pressured into writing blog posts you can’t connect with anymore? There is always a better way to do things that can only be found by you. Something needs to change. Maybe this is the time when you think you want to quit altogether, which leads me on to…
The ‘why’. Why you do it. Why you started. Why you have worked on it for such a long time, and what drives you. Does it make you truly happy? Maybe a part of it does, and you need to do that bit more, and the others less. What was the purpose and did you lose that along the way? Sometimes we all need a bit of a restructure to keep things fresh and interesting. We are humans, things change. If you don’t like being goal-led with numbers or figures, focus on different parts to it instead, how it makes you feel once you’ve completed it, the pride you feel that you were the one behind the idea. I find remembering why you started is so beneficial and can inspire new ideas and motivations that you didn’t even know you had.
When Clive Christian* contacted me about their range of their new Addictive Arts Perfume , scents based on the arts and guilty pleasures and asked if I wanted to try some, it got me thinking about what my guilty pleasures are.
It’s a phrase I’ve heard for many years, whether that’s because people love to chat about the shows they might watch secretly while the BF is out, or a crush they might have on a silver haired fox who isn’t Harry Styles. I remember asking my mum what a guilty pleasure was when I saw it as a question in a magazine when I was an impressionable 12 year old.
If I had to describe what my guilty pleasures are it would probably go along the lines of reality TV (yes, I do still watch The Only Way Is Essex, I can’t say I’m not invested in their drama) and cheesy 90’s RnB songs that I *still* seem to know every word of and make me so excited every time they rarely come not the radio.
Yet, if you know me or indeed read this blog, you’ll know how big I am on positive self-talk and yep you guessed it, I don’t feel guilty one bit for things that give me the buzz of happiness. Even if the things you like others may be deem ‘weird’ or ‘unusual’, you sure as heck won’t be the only person out there who loves things that like too. I love meditating, which I’m sure seems weird to many people out there, but I definitely don’t feel guilty about it or that it’s ‘weird’.
If I’ve had a long day and all I want to do is curl up on the sofa, with a cup of tea and watch some reality TV, I’m going to do it guilt-free, and you should too!
Here’s to not feeling guilty about anything that makes our day brighter.
Do you have any guilty pleasures that you don’t actually feel guilty about?
*This post is sponsored by Clive Christian Addictive Art Perfumes.
I won’t use the word ‘love’ as to me, that should be something that makes you feel good. That fills you up inside with a lovely comforting buzz, and makes you feel that you could take on the world. But nevertheless, you were for sure my first heartbreak.
I remember it so well, the days I woke up crying and went to bed with leaky eyes. Everything was difficult, grey, cloudy and in a haze because I was so, so sad. I was 17 at the time and life felt like it wouldn’t ever be the same again. I could literally feel my heart broken. I promised myself this would be the last time I had my heart broken and I would never trust a boy again.
Then, ‘The One’ came along. Well I say came along, it was a long 5 five years before he strode into my life with his bright blue eyes and cheeky smile, and I knew he would be here to stay. He had to break down the walls you built for me, but I knew he wouldn’t let me down like you did, and he brought my heart back to life. But now, it shines brighter than it ever did for you. This time it was the good kind of love. The kind that accepts you completely for who you are, weird quirks and annoying habits in tow.
He’s the guy I want to be my husband, and in a good five or ten years, the father of my children.
So thank you, for showing me that I can survive the worst, and come out stronger. Thank you for the hurt, that caused me to truly find myself and my love. And most importantly, thank you for leaving so someone better could take your place.
Even the sentence makes me breathe a little calmer, feel more relaxed and at bay.
I only just discovered the slow living movement in the Instagram world over the past couple of weeks, and boy am I HOOKED. Those cosy nights in with fluffy blankets, having a cup of tea with no (and I mean, no) distractions, taking the time to indulge in self-care and homemade treats, reading the pages of an actual book! It’s basically me in every sense of the word.
If you’re new to this lifestyle, have a gander of the slow living #hashtag and be prepared to swoon over the autumnal moody lighting, beds you want to curl up on and snooze the day away, bunches of blooms on a gorgeous dark wooden table.
A few weekends ago I had no plans, and the BF was out doing his own thang, so I decided the time was now to have my first slow living day. Let me tell you, it was glorious. I slept in, chatted to my favourite people online and had wonderful weekend conversations, pottered about the house with no purpose or action plan, make banana loaf that I sat and ate with a gorgeous cuppa, snuggled up on the sofa with the dog. I’ve been thinking about the day ever since it happened.
I can’t wait to have another day like this. Along with relaxing, it felt nourishing to me as a person, that I was investing in myself, truly. I really was living with no expectations and limitations, and what a joyful moment it was. Days that make the heart sing are my favourite.
SLOW-LIVING ACTIVITIES FOR YOU TO TRY
Collect some apples, and make them into a crumble
Listen to a podcast
Get out in nature, and listen to the birds sing
Have a lie-in
Take a midday bath and don’t for one moment feel guilty about it
Put on some soothing music and have a good old stretch
Talk about things that matter to you, your passions, goals and dreams for the future