I spoke about creativity before in My Journey with Creativity post, but for this one I’m going to focus on how I’m expanding it. Of course it comes in waves and flows, but there are certain practices that I’m putting into place to really get the most of out of it.
TRYING SOMETHING NEW (OR GOING BACK TO OLD THINGS THAT WORKED)
Over time our schedules change, but I’m now in a place in my life that I want to put myself out there a bit more, so that means going back to my regular yoga class (aswell as working on my own practice) and taking up old hobbies that I loved, and making the effort to include more people into my life.
In terms of trying new things, I’m varying the podcasts I usually listen to for a bit of new inspiration.
LOSE YOUR EXPECTATIONS
Expectations are pointless and don’t feed us in anyway. The same goes for comparison and judgement.
Use that blog post you loved reading as inspiration to create your own, and push yourself out of your usual comfort zone by writing about something you love that you haven’t posted before.
By going into any project or new activity with no expectations about being the ‘best’ or the ‘worst’ one in the group, you’ll have so much more fun. Which leads me onto my next point…
BE MORE CHILD-LIKE
Don’t take anything too seriously, and remember that you always have a choice. If you don’t want to join a new club that doesn’t seem your bag, you don’t have to.
It’s totally okay to stop doing things that don’t feed your creativity anymore. Just make sure you get back up and try again at something different.
Questions to ask yourself:
Does this make me feel happy?
Who am I doing this for, really? If I had a free day spare, would I still do this activity?
I spoke previously about my wind-down routine in this post, but I thought it deserved a post of its own as it’s genuinely something I look forward to each day.
To me, it signifies the start of a peaceful evening, to which will continue into the next day and so-on. It’s time for me to just relax and let the motions of the day be.
I start by (of course) getting into loungewear as soon as possible, there’s no way I could sit around and do things around the house in my jeans. Instead of usually running a bath about 7pm, I make it so I’m having a bath straight before I go to bed to doze off at 9-10pm.
I like to use Empsom salts in my bath as it really relaxes my muscles after a day of work, play, and some yoga. I also take my time doing my skincare routine and if I feel like it, a face mask while I’m in the tub.
I usually save some of my favourite people to watch on Youtube for while I soak in the bath, and once I’m out I use LOADS of the Lush Sleepy Body Lotion before I get into my pyjamas.
When I get into bed I leave my phone elsewhere to charge, apply some hand cream, spritz some pillow spray and spend a good half hour reading whatever book I’m currently reaching for.
Like I said previously, it’s definitely one of the highlights of my day and I sleep so much better than I did before I incorporated this calming ritual.
Do you have a wind-down routine for the end of the day?
This time last year I had no idea of the online blogging community. I wasn’t active on here and I never really spoke to anyone who had similar interests to me, whether that was by a direct message or commenting on their Instagram picture.
Over the last few months I’ve realised the incredible power it holds and if its something you are struggling with, I’ve included tips how to ‘find your tribe’ further on in this post.
Whether thats sharing a blog post of yours that they liked, engaging with your social media accounts or just asking how you are doing today, I have received nothing but love from the blogging community. As someone who doesn’t have many in real ‘friends’ and can find herself quite lonely, I would hate to be without it now and the support it provides. I’ve watched various bloggers come together to help each other out, case in point when the lovely Rebecca’s dog had a serious accident and together we raised £3,000 on his Go fund page to support his operations. Together we can do incredible things and make positive changes.
Some days are just shitty (sorry but it’s true), and when you read a blog post about someone going through a similar journey, it feels so, so comforting to know you are not alone and that other people have been through it too, and survived. I know that the times when I’ve been brutally honest on social media about how I’m feeling there is always a few people there to pick me up and remind me that I’m AWESOME.
Theres nothing quite as encouraging as fellow bloggers. Whether that’s having your back if you’re thinking of making this as a full-time gig, or reminding you to keep on the self-care train and to put yourself first, they are all words we sometimes need to hear but never even realised. I’m definitely a person that thrives on positivity, and I like to surrond myself with the same like-minded people. Having a willingness behind you of people who want to see you succeed feels fab.
FINDING YOUR TRIBE
Don’t rush. It can take months, even years so try not to compare how many comments you get on a post to anyone else. We all relate more to different kind of people, and the right people will come. Be patient.
Curate your feeds. Are you following people who have similar interests to you? People who you wouldn’t actually mind meeting in person (introvert problems right?) for coffee and cake. Look down your accounts and unfollow people who make you feel bad and focus on the positive peeps- if that’s your thing, of course.
Engage! Are you interacting with others? I know at first it can seem quite daunting, but no harm can come from sending a friendly message and most likely they might of wanted to reach out to you too but didn’t want to impose.
Focus on what your putting out there. Do you feel like you are truly being yourself? People relate more to honesty and authenticity, so don’t try and be someone else and just be yourself. You’re great as you are!
What do you think to the power of the online community?
I wrote a little while ago about why I meditate, but in today’s post I’m telling you why YOU should. I try to not be preachy and the notion of telling anyone they ‘have’ to do something makes me feel a bit icky inside, so take all of this with a pinch of salt if it isn’t your jam. If you’re interested, hear me out, you might be swayed…
BECAUSE YOU HAVE THE TIME
I’m sorry but I don’t think anyone can use this excuse for something that is going to take 10 MINUTES out of their day. Granted I’m not a mum or a business owner myself, but we’ve all got 10 minutes to be found somewhere right? Even if you spend 10 minutes less scrolling on your phone, using that time for meditation will honestly, change the game for you. Have a little think about where you could grab a few moments on your own and begin with a few days a week. If you don’t have 10 minutes, anything is better than nothing! Even a few mindful breaths is a great habit to start.
BECAUSE IT WILL KEEP YOU BALANCED
I can probably guarantee that if you make meditation a regular practice in your daily life, you will without a doubt feel better because of it. You’ll sleep better, feel more in control of your life, be a kinder person. I’m basically saying it’s like pure magic (please try not to eye-roll at me)
For me, it makes me feel happier on bad day and like I can have a mini fresh start whenever I need to. The way I describe how I feel after I’ve meditated is the feeling of jumping into a cool pool on holiday when you’re too hot. Instant relief.
BECAUSE DOING SOMETHING FOR YOURSELF IS NECESSARY
We are surronded by people. It’s not often that we are actually alone, and having something that you can look forward to and work on for yourself, by yourself, is a great feeling. Knowing that you don’t have to depend on anyone to keep it up with you, and you are the sole person in charge always makes me feel motivated and inspired.
Writing these ‘5 things to do this weekend’ posts are some of my favourite to publish, and you guys always seem to like them too so I thought I’d do another, all in the hope of having a brighter Monday when it rolls around!
Have a lie-in.
Lets be honest, we need to catch up on the early mornings we’ve had throughout the week, so the weekend is the perfect time for a lazy morning in bed, guilt-free of course. I’m a big fan of having breakfast, scrolling through my phone then having another cheeky hour. Feels SO good.
Spend the day doing exactly whatever you want.
Most weekends we rush around doing the jobs we think we *should* have done on Thursday, however make sure you do the things that you actually want to this weekend. It is our own free time after-all, one where we should be able to put ourselves first a little bit more, and have much some needed freedom from the daily grind. Whether that’s a trip to the shops you’ve been looking forward to or a mid-day bath, go ahead my friend!
I hate feeling unprepared and super unorganised, it only adds to the pressure of a new week. Making sure you are prepared for the week ahead will make you feel so much better, and will be a lot less stressful come the start of the week, when you already know you’ve got shizz covered.
The cure for a good week ahead? Make plans that you’re excited for. I work really well when I have things to look forward to, and they don’t even have to be very adventurous, just planning in a nice dinner or doing my nails one evening. Putting it in my diary means I’ll actually do it too and not end up wasting the night away!
A great cure for the Monday blues (or Tuesday blues if that’s the way it’s going) is a gratitude practice. Simply writing down three things you are grateful for or something that’s made you smile recently is a sure-fire way to give yourself a few positive vibes and start the week off right.