Weddings are such personal events, so feel free to take everything I say in this post with a pinch of salt, and always go with your own gut feeling. This is just how I see it from my point of view, and of course with the added knowledge that now I can look back at this time with added hindsight!

 

ENJOY THE ENGAGEMENT

This might seem a little strange to add as the first step, but it’s something I wish we had done more. Of course we had an engagement party which was wonderful, but I wish we had really made the most of the time being an engaged couple with all the excitement that it brings, without getting overwhelmed planning the big day. Even if you want to get married fairly soon, there’s no harm spending the first few weeks in engagement bliss- it’s a one off and something you won’t experience again.

NOW, FIGURE OUT THE IMPORTANT STUFF

With this, I’d recommend speaking to your partner and working out together what’s important to you both. For us, well, me in particular, that was having an outside ceremony. I knew it was what I’d always wanted and it wasn’t something I was able to comprimise on (luckily for me I didn’t have to). We had to really settle on certain elements though, as I think orginally Dan wanted a bigger wedding, whereas I preferred something much smaller (we met in the middle and ended up at around 60 day guests). If there are things you really are passionate about, voice them and see if there’s a way you can come to an agreement that works for you both. And try not to argue too much, it is a nice thing you’re planning afterall!

RESEARCH, RESEARCH, RESEARCH (and budgets…eek)

Weddings are HUGE. The amount of things included in one day still blows my mind, from the big stuff like the -actual getting married business- to the background music you want while dinner is being served, and the colour theme you want to go for for the decor. And while you’re researching, have a think about how much money you realistically want to spend on the wedding. They are extremely expensive, so you really need to consider numbers and try and keep on budget as much as possible. If you want to spend less than £5,000 and your venue cost is £2,500, realisitically, that might not be feasible.

ASK FOR HELP

There’s no way I could of done it alone, in fact Dan probably did just as much preparation in wedding planning as I did, if not more on occassion. My sister and mum were happy to help with whatever we asked them too, aswell as both families helping out financially. No-one expects you to do it alone, and you shouldn’t have to either. When people ask if theres anything they can do to help, let them.

I hope this has helped you in putting together the first steps to planning a wedding, I know how overwhelming it can sometimes feel. In a few weeks I’ll be posting my advice for future brides, so stay tuned to read that post if it sounds interesting to you!

 

This year has been quite the milestone one for me personally, and I’m looking forward to setting some December goals to finish the year off positively. In terms of goal setting for 2019, at the moment I’m still thinking that I will be setting monthly goals instead of New Year resolutions, as I love having them to focus on throughout the month and they feel a lot less pressurised.

 

NOVEMBER RECAP

 

Mantra work. I really wanted to incorporate positive affirmations into my daily routine, and I feel like I’ve gotten somewhere good with this, so far. It’s definitely something I want to continue, and I usually do it before bed with a crystal, just repeating mantras to myself like ‘I have everything I need’ or ‘Today, I did enough’ with a few deep breaths. It feels good.

Complete festive shopping. I still have a few bits and pieces to collect, but on the whole I’m nearly done with my Christmas shopping, which makes me very happy! I did this because I didn’t want to feel stressed nearer the time, so it does feel like a weight off my shoulders that it’s nearly all done. I still need to re-assess how I can spend a bit less on presents next year, because even though I’ve scaled down somewhat, it still seems like a huge amount.

Start learning the piano! If you follow me on Instagram, you might have seen a few of the clips I put on my stories of me learning to play. I’m absolutely loving it, it’s something I’m doing multiple times a week (whenever I get the chance really), and I’m halfway through the book I bought to teach me. It feels like my new hobby and I’m really enjoying it.

 

DECEMBER GOALS

 

Treat myself. This might seem a bit of a weird choice given that at the end of the month I’ll be very lucky to be opening presents, but I mean this in a more non-materialistic way. Going into winter is always something I struggle with, so I want to treat myself more in doing things that feel good for me. Afternoon baths, not feeling guilty for staying in my pj’s, and picking myself up little goodies here and there.

Keep calm. I can very easily get swept up in the Christmas festivities, and even though that’s great, I lose my mindfulness a little bit in the midst of it all. This December I want to keep calm and be as mindful and present as possible. Hopefully I’ll do this by taking specific time out to meditate and continue my yoga practice.

Post more on Instagram/stories. At the moment I’m trying to post on Instagram more frequently, around three times a week, but I’d ideally like to post on there every other day. It does prove quite tricky because sometimes a lot can go into a photo and the lack of daylight we have at the moment doesn’t help the situation. With that in mind, I want to focus on stories a lot more too, so I’m challenging myself to talk to camera for the first 12 days of December! I still get a little nervous but I’m hoping it will help my confidence on there a little, plus it’s good to show up online and be active I think.

 

Do you have any December goals?