Investing in myself isn’t a concept I’d even thought of before until last year. I thought you could only invest in, say a business in monetary terms, or invest in a relationship by making long term plans together. When I realised that you could invest in yourself, by giving yourself time, space, and kindness, it was something I really wanted to have a go at.

Something I still struggle with at times is the notion that investing in ourselves is selfish, but it truly isn’t. We can only take the best care of others, when we’ve cared for ourselves, and it’s something that can really enhance our lives and well-being.

 

#1 SCHEDULE IN SELF-CARE

Self-care is something we can all let slip, especially in the busy periods when we actually need it the most. It’s totally different for everyone. For me, self-care is making time for yoga and meditation, hot baths with my favourite playlist, and making sure I’m eating good food and sleeping well. When those things happen, I feel balanced and ready to be my best self to the world.

#2 LOOK AFTER YOUR PHYSICAL AND MENTAL WELL-BEING

Every few months I like to treat myself to a full body massage, and I’ve recently had crystal therapy which I loved, and will be adding into my routine too. A full body massage looks after my physical body and makes sure it gets the love and attention it needs, and crystal therapy helps my mental well-being stay on top and connected. Sure, some people might think this is a bit extreme, but we’ve only got one life, and I want to live mine with all the positive energy I could possibly have.

#3 GIVE YOURSELF TIME TO LEARN

Whether that’s learning a new skill, or setting new boundaries, give yourself time to learn and process. Nothing needs to be done in one day, and having patience with yourself along the way is crucial. You’re doing the best you can. Even if today you slipped up, there’s always tomorrow.

#4 INVEST IN SOMETHING YOU’RE INTERESTED IN

That could be an Instagram course (I loved doing my first one last spring and it’s definitely something I’d do again), looking into night courses at your local college, or even buying yourself that new camera that you’ve been looking at for the last six months. The time is now! This little action could end up creating your future.

#5 PUT YOURSELF FIRST

A hard one to end on, right? But I’m going there! Now I don’t mean this in an arrogant, screw you to everyone kind of way, but more in sitting down and accessing your own needs, working out what things your happy with at the moment, and what you’d like to leave behind. I think it’s something so valuable and necessary for us all to do to end up being truly happy. It’s all in your hands, remember. You’re the only person who can look after you the best.

 

How do you invest in yourself? Is it something you’ve never thought about before?

 

Cosy up with a hot cup of tea, and settle down to read some Happy Things!

 

#1 Our little countryside retreat. After the New Year, we headed off to Whitby for a few days to stay in a lovely cottage, and it was perfect! Chilling out, walking by the beach and exploring the town was just how I wanted to spend the first days of 2019.

#2 Yoga with Adriene ‘Dedicate’. It’s been just over a week since it started, and I’m absolutely loving it. I think my yoga journey is going to grow a lot more this year, so let me know if you’d like a blog post on it? I’m really trying to listen to my body throughout this yoga challenge, and modifying poses when they don’t feel good, to make sure I keep going and finish the full 30 days.

#3 Allowing myself to eat whatever I want. Over the last couple of weeks, I’ve been a lot kinder to myself, and not punishing myself when I want a chocolate bar, which is something I’ve done for years. A laid back approach and just eating what feels good has actually made me crave even more fruit and vegetables, so it’s a win win all around.

#4 Catching up on some great podcasts. Because everything was so busy around this festive period, I didn’t get a chance to catch up on all the great podcasts on my phone. Luckily, everything is slowing down now so I’m making the most of it and devouring them all!

#5 Baths! Daytime baths were a massive thing for me around the Christmas period, and it was incredible. For some reason they feel just as good, if not better than the evening, so maybe I need to introduce some into my weekend and free days.

#6 A lot of good TV. Alllll the good TV programs are back on the box, and I’m very happy about it. I’ve just started watching Marie Kondo’s new Netflix program, and there’s a few another shows I need to get around to watching too.

#7 Bringing back my love of naps. I had 2 naps in 2 days this weekend, and it was amazing! I’ve forgotten how good they are because it’s been a few months since I had any. My work schedule has changed so I don’t really need them anymore, but they’re such a great way to boost my day when I’m flagging.

#8 Creating new ideas for Instagram
Like the above photo in this post, I really want to challenge myself this year with creating new ideas for Instagram. Even the ones that seem a bit quirky! I think it’s great to surprise people and try new things, and thankfully it seems to be going well so far and I’m getting good feedback, which feels fab.

#9 Trying new skincare. I was lucky enough to receive lots of new skincare for Christmas, and my skincare cupboards are looking pretty amazing, if I say so myself! I’m a massive skincare junkie, and I love pampering my skin and giving it what its craving. I’m really enjoying trying lots of different skincare, my skin is looking really good at the moment too.

#10 A clean and tidy home. Over the past few weeks I did a lot of de-cluttering, and now the decorations are down, the house feels and looks so clean and tidy! I definitely work and live better when my surroundings aren’t messy, my mind always feels so much clearer.

 

 

What’s made you happy lately? I’d love to know!

 

January is here! Can you believe it? To be totally honest, I always find the whole ‘new year, new me’ mantra of January really overwhelming, so I’m taking it easy with this month’s goals and not putting lots of pressure on myself! You ready to dig in?

 

DECEMBER RECAP

Treat myself. A few days before Christmas I had a full body massage, which was that amazing that I fell asleep, and I’ve definitely been treating myself to all the chocolate biscuit boxes we’ve got in the house lately! I’ve not been putting pressure on myself to work out, and to go run and do yoga when I feel my body needs it. It’s been quite the nice revelation I must say!

Keep calm. This was probably by number one priority this month, aswell as spreading all the festive cheer and I’m so proud of myself that I managed it. It did mean I had to say no to a few family gatherings and have a few conversations that weren’t exactly pleasant, but I put myself and my wellbeing first.

Post more on Instagram/stories. I set myself a little challenge to show up on stories for the first 12 days of the month, and I did it! I have to say, after the first few goes it definitely gets less nerve-wracking and you start to build confidence in talking to your phone and then posting it on the internet. Plus, it’s only live for 24 hours so it’s not too bad if you mess up anyway. I feel a lot more comfortable talking to camera now, and I think I posted more on the grid too while I was at it.

 

JANUARY GOALS

Yoga with Adriene’s ‘Dedicate’. Starting on the 2nd of Jan, I’ll be joining in to Adriene’s yoga challenge. I didn’t manage to complete last years, but I’ve done all the other previous ones, so I’m really looking forward to it again! Although I’m hoping the rotten cold I have whilst I type this has disappeared by then…

Learn how to knit. I managed this in a previous post, but this is another little challenge I’m setting myself this month and I’m so excited to learn how to knit. I got a beginner set for Christmas which should help things on their way, and I always love learning a new skill.

And that’s it! I’m only setting myself two main goals this January, because as I spoke about earlier, I find it a tough month for overwhelm.

 

Do you have any goals for January?

 

At a time where New Years resolutions are rife and the overwhelm that we have to change our lives dramatically this month, I wanted to chat about why I’m not making any, and why I much prefer to set myself smaller, monthly goals instead!

 

THEY FEEL MORE ACHIEVABLE

I definitely lost the motivation to set myself long, un-realistic goals such as ‘drop 3 dress sizes’ and ‘no chocolate all year’ when I was a teenager. I’m a massive goal oriented person, and I like to reward myself when I achieve them. I also don’t like failure as much as the next person! Having the faith in myself that I can do what I set my mind to is a real mood-booster. Plus, because I set them in advance, I can make sure that they’re as achievable as possible, for example if I’m having a busy month, I know I won’t be able to do yoga everyday, so I’ll leave that for another time when it’s a bit quieter.

 

SOMETHING TO FOCUS ON

Another thing I like about monthly goals is that I can focus on them throughout the month, instead of making 10 at the beginning of the year and forgetting they exist come February. Throughout the weeks, I can check back in with them and see if I’m on the right track, what I might want to change for next month, and it’s make me feel like I’m got my priorities sorted a little bit.

 

YOU GET MORE DONE

When I think back to when I first started setting monthly goals over 6 months ago, I’m so proud of what I’ve achieved and the things I’ve got done. I’ve decluttered, sorted out my wardrobe, been kinder to myself, pushed my boundaries and explored life outside of my comfort zone. Plus I’m pretty glad I’ve documented them all on here so I can look back on them and see how far I’ve come. Knowing that I have actually achieved what I’ve put my mind to, makes me want to keep making more goals and to continue.

 

 

Some goals you could include:

 

  • Read 3 books.
  • Meditate for 5 minutes every day.
  • Go to bed earlier.
  • Practise a self-care routine.
  • Cook 2 different meals a week from wholesome, fresh ingredients.
  • Talk more on Instagram stories.
  • Get up earlier and establish a calming, morning routine.
  • Go outside for a walk every day.
  • Bake something new once a week.
  • Try a new exercise routine.
  • Work on your blog layout.
  • Have more date nights.
  • Vow to contact more brands for potential collaborations.
  • Drink more water.

 

 

Would you ever make monthly goals?