Lets be totally honest here, there’s gonna be a lot more than 3 things that I need to let go of, but these are pretty big (read: huge) things that I’ve been trying to unpick for a while, and I wanted to share them with you today because I think they are applicable to us all in some way or another.
None of these things are something that’s going to happen overnight, but every day I’m going to work on them, slowly but surely.
Pressure.
I never realised how much pressure I put on myself until the veil lifted a few months ago, and boy, is it quite something. Am I being a good sister/daughter/wife/? Do I eat too much sugar? Am I *doing* enough? I’ve been working to erase this with positive affirmations, and reminding myself that everyday I’m just doing the best I can. There is no need to put myself under boundaries of what I should or could be doing. I am enough, I have enough, and I do enough, something I try to say to myself whenever it feels like I’m struggling.
Control.
I like control. There, I said it. I like routine, I like to manage plans and know that everything is all set in the right place. But of course, life sometimes has other ideas. And when you let go and succumb to the flow of life, which sometimes is magical and others, not so great, you step back and see the bigger picture. There’s nothing to control in the first place. This is something I still need to work on, but I think I’ve made big steps over the last year and I’m proud of how it’s going. Granted, I’m not quite there yet, but maybe I’ll never be, but I’m going to keep trying, because it really does feel like a weight off my shoulders when I release and let go.
Old habits/thoughts.
Ouch, a biggie for me. I’d like to think I’m a positive person overall, but sometimes you don’t realise how negative your self-talk can be, and just how easily it seems to come without you even noticing it. Again, this is something I’m working on with my positive affirmations. I know it’s going to take quite a while to improve, but in this case I really believe small steps are the way forward. Self-love is such a massive topic, and in my opinion, probably a life-long commitment. I really want to be kinder on myself and make it a priority, and when I do focus on this, it honestly makes such a difference and I’d recommend it to everyone.
Things that help me in letting go:
- Being in nature
- Focusing on my breathing, and being present.
- Positive affirmations
- Yoga
- Meditation
- Having an evening routine
- Listening to my favourite playlists
- Cups of tea and moments of gratitude
What do you need to let go of?