Lets be totally honest here, there’s gonna be a lot more than 3 things that I need to let go of, but these are pretty big (read: huge) things that I’ve been trying to unpick for a while, and I wanted to share them with you today because I think they are applicable to us all in some way or another.

None of these things are something that’s going to happen overnight, but every day I’m going to work on them, slowly but surely.



I never realised how much pressure I put on myself until the veil lifted a few months ago, and boy, is it quite something. Am I being a good sister/daughter/wife/? Do I eat too much sugar? Am I *doing* enough? I’ve been working to erase this with positive affirmations, and reminding myself that everyday I’m just doing the best I can. There is no need to put myself under boundaries of what I should or could be doing. I am enough, I have enough, and I do enough, something I try to say to myself whenever it feels like I’m struggling.



I like control. There, I said it. I like routine, I like to manage plans and know that everything is all set in the right place. But of course, life sometimes has other ideas. And when you let go and succumb to the flow of life, which sometimes is magical and others, not so great, you step back and see the bigger picture. There’s nothing to control in the first place. This is something I still need to work on, but I think I’ve made big steps over the last year and I’m proud of how it’s going. Granted, I’m not quite there yet, but maybe I’ll never be, but I’m going to keep trying, because it really does feel like a weight off my shoulders when I release and let go.


Old habits/thoughts.

Ouch, a biggie for me. I’d like to think I’m a positive person overall, but sometimes you don’t realise how negative your self-talk can be, and just how easily it seems to come without you even noticing it. Again, this is something I’m working on with my positive affirmations. I know it’s going to take quite a while to improve, but in this case I really believe small steps are the way forward. Self-love is such a massive topic, and in my opinion, probably a life-long commitment. I really want to be kinder on myself and make it a priority, and when I do focus on this, it honestly makes such a difference and I’d recommend it to everyone.


Things that help me in letting go:

  • Being in nature
  • Focusing on my breathing, and being present.
  • Positive affirmations
  • Yoga
  • Meditation
  • Having an evening routine
  • Listening to my favourite playlists
  • Cups of tea and moments of gratitude


What do you need to let go of?

  • I can totally relate to the need to have control over everything. It can be so scary when you feel you don’t have control. But by taking the risk of moving abroad on my own at a very young age I put myself in so many situation every day where I had no control over anything. It was a steep, and rather hard, learning curve but totally worth it. I still like control but I don’t ‘require’ it all the time.

    Teresa | outlandishblog.com 💫

  • Brooke Smith

    I love this post and I relate and agree with everything you’ve said. Many things in life can drag you down and create an unhappy environment. Letting go of the things you’re so used to having around is incredibly hard, but so freeing and important. I’m happy for you that you’ve discovered this and are taking your happiness seriously, it’s lovely! The things you listed that you do to help you let go are amazing things that I too use in my life. It’s amazing how a little positive thinking and breath can change so much. Wishing you the best luck! ❤️

    • NatalieLeanne

      Thank you so much Brooke, that’s such a sweet comment and reading that made my morning!

  • I’m right there with you on needing to let go of control. I feel very overwhelmed in life at the moment because some big changes will happen in the next year that I cannot micromanage. I am trying ‘keep calm and carry on’ but control is definitely a big one for me.

    • NatalieLeanne

      I think a lot of people feel that way too, it’s definitely not just us. I hope you’re okay and manage the changes smoothly and calmly! xx

  • I can relate to all three of these things. I put way too much pressure on myself to be doing well, to be doing things and I just need to let myself breathe. What will be, will be!

    Lucy | Forever September

    • NatalieLeanne

      Letting things be is so important! xx