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You know those days when you’ve been sat refreshing Twitter and Instagram ALL day, usually without even realising it? Or it could be you’re struggling with something and engaging/interacting with others is something you just purely do not have the energy for at the moment? Heres what I do when it happens to me…

 

TAKE TIME OUT

It’s an obvious one, but the first thing I do is put the bloody phone down. Even better, turn it off. Even if it’s just for the majority of the evening, you need to take a step back. I know when I feel like this I get really bad headaches just from staring at a screen for so long, so maybe try un-winding with a hot bath and enjoying the company of your partner or family for the rest of the day. After some self-care you’ll feel ready to get back online again and see what the Blogosphere is up to.

CURATE YOUR FEED

Now you’ve recovered from the overwhelm but still feeling a little ‘ugh’, you need to start thinking about the people you currently follow. Are they positive influences in your feed or do their pictures trigger something in you? Everyone’s content changes and I don’t think there is anything wrong with unfollowing if you can’t relate to them anymore. If this feels too harsh, you could always send them a kind message explaining where you’re at currently, and that you mean no harm.

Everyone has the control over what THEY want to see. Make sure it’s inspiring, not discouraging.

ESTABLISH BOUNDARIES

The final thing I would advise after feeling social media overwhelm, is to establish boundaries. This can mean choosing a specific time that you allocate only to engaging with others, and then logging off and getting on with the rest of your day. I know that I for one have to be quiet strict with myself sometimes so I don’t fall down the hole again, so I try to not scroll before bed and read a book, and will sometimes leave my phone at home if I’m going out for a few hours so I’m not distracted by it.

At the end of the day I think social media is a luxury for us all, and it should add to our lives and enhance it, not subtract and make us feel bad, tired or drained.

You are in charge.

Do you ever feel social media overwhelm?  

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There are so many great blogging tips out there, but I can totally understand why sometimes it can feel a bit puzzling as we are bombarded with information how to get the best views, engagement and blog statistics. Today I wanted to share what has worked for me personally, in the hopes that it might work for you too.

 

Be consistent

I find being consistent really helps when growing your blog, and the blogs I love to read usually have at least a few posts up a week too. Of course life can get in the way, and you don’t have to be that regimented that you end up posting things you don’t want to, but having a small schedule will mean that of course you get more blog views, but actually more importantly, people will start coming back to read more regularly when there’s fresh content for them. For some reason it always suprises me that I get the most blog views on a day when I’ve just posted, but I suppose that’s pretty obvious.

 

Plan ahead

This one is optional but I love to plan ahead in terms of blog posts, and be in front by at least a few posts. I find it so much easier to write when I’m not pressured to get a post up, and the words always flow freely without me forcing them. To totally contradict my last point, if you wanted to get ahead of yourself I don’t think it would be a bad thing to have a week off on posting if that means you can get a number of posts written up and scheduled in the meantime. I have a post about my blogging schedule which I’ll link here which might give you a bit more information on how I do it.

 

 

Approach brands yourself

I’ve only started doing this recently, so I’m not the most experienced blogger in this area but, I think it’s something we all need to do more. To be totally honest, I got bored of having weird emails that are so irrelevant to my blog, so I’m going out to find my own. And, it actually paid off! I’m starting to work with more and more different brands now that I love and am super happy to collaborate with. It always makes me feel proud of myself and this blog!

Sure, some people decline and others don’t even reply, but one or two respond and are so lovely! Try not to be too imitated, they are just normal people at the end of the day, just be honest and polite. Let me know if you would like a more in-depth post about this and I’ll definitely put one together!

 

Be genuine

In terms of everything to with blogging and general social media engagement, being genuine is so key. If you liked someones post, tell them what you liked about it instead of the generic ‘Great post!’. If you want to blog about a specific topic because it feels right to you, do it. If you don’t like a picture, don’t post it to your Instagram just in the hopes other might like it instead. (I’ve done that and you just want to delete it after) I always share the good and bad parts of my day because life isn’t perfect, and neither are Instagram feeds.

Be yourself, there is only one of you.

 

What blogging tips have worked for you, any of these?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

We all need a bit of a breather, and some days can feel pretty challenging. So here’s a few ways I try and get a little bit of a refresh in my busy day…

  • Have your breakfast before going on social media.
  • Go on a walk on your lunch break to get some well-needed fresh air.
  • Cook something new tonight.
  • Give yourself a manicure/pedicure.
  • Change your lock screen.
  • Get a Starbucks.
  • Delete your apps for a day- this is something I definitely want to try!
  • Turn off notifications.
  • Buy yourself some pretty blooms.
  • Compliment someone.
  • Ring your mum/sister/dad for a catch-up.
  • Put on a red lip!
  • Buy a glossy mag to read tonight instead of scrolling
  • Tell someone who inspires you WHY they inspire you!
  • Share the love on a blog post you’ve loved recently.
  • Hug, I love warm hugs. Basically Olaf.
  • Put on your favourite song.
  • Have a nap if you reeeeally need one.
  • Reorganise something.
  • Send that email you keep putting off, you’ll feel so much better after, promise.

 

Will you be doing any of these today?

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Now we are all super happy it’s February and the fact that January has finally left which felt like 89473 years, all eyes are on Valentines day and the plans we have/or do not have.

I’ve never been massively over the top enthusiastic about a certain day to show people you love them, but any day that encourages people to show love towards one another is a good one in my book and I’m not about to rain on the parade for anyone else either.

Coincidentally, Valentines Day is also a week before our anniversary so I teamed up with Henry London watches to do something a bit more special and fancy this year.

I picked a gorgeous gold and pink duo, Dan went for a rose gold and brown watch and I also had them engraved on the back of the day we got together, which I thought was a nice touch. I am obsessed with that pink face, isn’t it amazing? They have such a wide collection that it was hard to choose, so there is definitely something for everyone if you’re in the market for some new wrist candy. They have a ‘241’ sale on at the moment which means that you get a discount if you enter it into your order online! GO GO GO.

For the day itself? Due to personal circumstances I don’t think we will be venturing out anywhere special just yet, but spending real time together instead. Maybe watching a movie, having conversations that don’t involve looking at our phones, and appreciating each others companies. Which really, the day is about isn’t it?

Whether you do gifts or not, celebrate the day or let it pass by, make sure you acknowledge a loved one whether thats a boyfriend, girlfriend, parent or pet. Tell them you love them and how much you joy they bring you. That’s the most important thing.

 

SOME VALENTINES DAY INSPIRATION

  • Cook a meal together and celebrate the day with a nice bottle of wine.
  • Ring up someone you love and check in, see how they are.
  • Go on a woodland walk with the dog, coming home to a nice cup of tea will feel even better afterwards.
  • Dress up and go for a meal. Sometimes, it’s nice to get a bit dolled up I think.
  • Treat your other half (or yourself!) to something special! You deserve it.
  • Bake something delicious and lets be honest, if you make it red it’s definitely appropriate.
  • Book the day off and pamper and show love to YOURSELF. You might really need it.
  • Make plans for an exciting trip in the future, it doesn’t have to be limited to one day only.

 

 

How are you spending Valentines Day?

 

*This post was in collaboration with Henry London.

When Jack Wills* contacted me asking if I wanted to collaborate with them on a fitness post for promotion of their women’s joggers I was so excited as my exercise journey definitely hasn’t been the smoothest and I feel like I’ve learnt a lot. You guys know I love to share everything on here, so lets get cracking hey?

At high school you better believe I was one of those gals who was always last in the 800 metres, and I used to try and convince my friends to fake fall-over with me so we could get out of it. It wasn’t until I was a lot older that I realised exercise is so much more than feeling judged by other women about how high you can jump or how fast you can run. And the one thing it’s definitely not, is a competition.

You don’t like running? Don’t do it. The thought of the gym makes you feel rubbish? Guess what, no-one is forcing you to go.

Finding a way to move your body that makes you feel confident, happy and in control is a game-changer, and there’s so many options out there that I promise there will be something out there for you. Try everything! Yoga, pilates, HITT, swimming. Is there a particular thing you loved when you were little, and is there any way to include that into your weekly routine now? There is no rules when it comes to what exercise you should be doing, let your body lead the way.

And my exercise routine now? Well, it depends on how I’m feeling and more importantly, what my body NEEDS. Some days I can do yoga three days in a row, the next two days I want to chill. I can go to the gym, or if I’m not feeling it I’ll simply leave and try again another day.

It really doesn’t have to be a mine-field, so don’t let it.

 

How do you feel towards fitness, do you think there’s a pressure attached?

 

*this post was sponsored by Jack Wills.