I’ve heard a lot about SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder) recently, and that’s thanks to people’s great posts. I must admit, before this year I didn’t know what it actually was. I remember going through a low period last Autumn but couldn’t put a place on it, and when I look at the symptoms, it seems very similar to what those who suffer with SAD have to deal with.
Now that I’ve worked out what was affecting me, I’m putting a little action plan in place so I have a happier Autumn this year.
Get in as much daylight as possible.
This is something I’m making a huge priority of mine as the dark nights roll in. The lack of sunlight really affects my mood and can make me feel very low, so as soon as I wake up I’m opening the blinds and getting out at lunch times for a quick stroll. There’s just something about the fresh air hitting your face, and making you feel free. Even when I’m tired and just want to watch Gilmore Girls on the sofa at 5pm, I’m forcing myself to go for one last little walk because I know I will get the benefit from it.
Try light therapy.
This is something I’m yet to try but I know my stepdad has one which I’m going to ask to borrow. Apparently they work very well at mimicking real sunlight and provide the same benefits. I’m excited to give it a go and see if there’s a difference, I’ll let you know how I get on.
Looking forward to the little things.
This isn’t just something I do for Autumn but most days. I’m planning on ramping this up this year and treating myself to little bits here and there. Whether that’s getting a new magazine to read on cosy nights in, or stacking up on a few sweet snacks, I’m not letting myself to feel guilty for it if it’s helping to make me smile. I find I always have a much more positive outset when I’m giving myself something little to look forward to each day.
I’ve really been enjoying posting new pictures on my Instagram recently, so I definitely want to keep that up and try new ways to capture images. I’m planning on making myself a new manifestation board as that’s something I find really works for me and I haven’t done one in years, my old one definitely needs sprucing up a little. I’m going to also order some new reads and get stuck into some self-development books. I think Autumn is the perfect time to invest a little more in your mental health.
Do you suffer from SAD? How do you keep happy during these months?
Yet, we all have them don’t they? You could probably be forgiven that thinking your the only one who has them rear their ugly heads, and I sure as heck sometimes feel like that on social media.
It’s just a fact that most people won’t talk about theirs, and I totally get where they are coming from. I know that when I have a bad day, the last thing I want to do is go online. I don’t want to post a pretty picture to Instagram, I don’t want talk on Twitter, all I want to do is go to bed and be left alone, although maybe bring me tea and biscuits please.
Once I’m out of my funk, I share what I’ve been feeling and growing through. I don’t want people to think my life is ‘perfect’.. as if there is such a thing. I want to tell my online mates what is making me feel shitty, and when they comment with advice I listen to them.
When I see another people sharing how they are feeling I find it so refreshing and it makes me do a double-check that WAIT I have actually been comparing and they have bad days aswell and their life is not perfect, they are human like me too.
Sometimes you’ve just gotta have a cry to your mum, and let it all out.
I really believe that it is the bad days that make the good days, so good.
THINGS I DO ON A BAD DAY:
Don’t force being happy. Accepting my feelings always brings a bit of space between me and ‘them’, which makes them feel a lot more manageable.
Don’t feel guilty about them. We ALL have them, promise.
Eat things that make me nostalgic/that I ate as a child. Strawberries and ice cream, yes!
Don’t constantly think about how bad the day is you’re having.
Spend time with people I love
Have a Netflix binge
Listen to music and zone out for a while
Try and get fresh air, if I can
Have a really hot bath
What do you think about bad days? Do you share them when you have them?
I think if you’re not into social media, like my grandparents, it can be a little difficult to imagine why anyone would willingly share their life online, including the vulnerable bits most people wouldn’t choose to air. I’ve been thinking a lot recently about why I continue to share my life online and came up with a few reasons why I do it..
LETTING MY THOUGHTS GO
I’m a person with A LOT of thoughts, I’ve always analysed situations and liked to think things through. Its just the way my mind works I guess. When I’m struggling with an issue, the only way I can work out the outcome is to write about it. Sometimes it really does feel like therapy, but a lot cheaper obv. Maybe its the English lover in me, but there’s something about writing down your thoughts and them letting them go that feels so natural to me. Once I’ve come to the end of the post, the feelings that I started with have calmed down and I feel a lot more balanced and lighter than before.
Forgive me for getting a bit deep here, but I’ve never really found my passion and fit in life. I never really liked what everyone else did in high school, and I always thought there was something missing. That there must be something I love and am passionate about. And it turns out there was, and that was blogging. I feel like I have the best group of online mates (and hopefully in real life at some point too) and blogging to me just feels very easy and simple. I write my thoughts, some of you guys let me know if you can relate, and we connect. It’s the best part of it all I think. Feeling like you’re not on your own with whatever you’re going through is so comforting. It is without a doubt my favourite thing about blogging.
Isn’t that what life is about? I want to share my problems and my successes. I want to chat about things that I’ve overcome, and struggles I still have to fight. I want to have a place that I can look back on and remember the feelings I felt. I want to continue to use my blog as a place where I grow and get to know myself better, and a place that I can always fall back on and know that it’s there for me. It’s as simple as that. In an ever-changing world, having a place thats only yours, is so comforting.
Have you ever thought about why you share your life online?
We all know we should be proud of ourselves but sometimes, it takes thinking about certain situations you’ve handled or what you’re working on that can make you realise how good you should be feeling right now. I hope this blog post makes you realise how awesome you already are.
For the work-out you did this morning. Nobody forced you to do it, but you did.
That promotion you recently got at work. You worked hard for that girl!
For holding up a blog, even if you can’t do it as a job yet. You do it because you love it.
You have a body that you’ve looked after for however many years, it breathes every day thanks to how you treat it.
You have great relationships in your life. Okay, some aren’t all great, but you have some awesome people around you.
You know how to look after yourself, and more importantly, what not to do.
You manage to face the day however bad you’re feeling.
You fit in the time to do things that make you feel good.
Reading books even though you don’t technically have to.
For always working towards your goals, and not giving up.
Getting the jobs done that you need to do, every single day.
The anxieties you constantly overcome.
For brushing your teeth and getting dressed. Simple things matter.
Not spending all your wage on ASOS. Just 50%.
For smiling at mean people, and killing it with kindness.
For knowing that mental health is important.
Setting boundaries, whether that’s with yourself or others.
Eating a diet that isn’t just cereal bars and cups of tea.
For coming out of that bad time you went through feeling stronger than ever.
Setting myself little goals always makes me feel better than just the one New Year’s Resolutions for the whole 12 months. I like things to feel achievable or I just won’t even bother- anyone else out there feel me on this? Here’s what I want to focus on doing for the rest of this year..
GETTING BACK INTO BAKING
I have a complicated relationship with baking. It’s not something that comes natural to me, and I’d have to say at least 30% of the stuff I’ve made in the past has ended up in the bin, my poor bank balance for those damn Holland & Barrett ingredients. I like to experiment with healthier takes on recipes as then I feel less bad for eating half of it the same day, and I’ve got my eye on a few banana bread recipes that look so delicious and perfect with my 3pm cuppa.
UPPING MY FASHION GAME
I’m not a fashion blogger by any means, but I definitely want to update my wardrobe this Autumn with a few new pieces. I find clothes are very closely linked with how I’m feeling in terms of confidence, so treating myself to something nice to wear is justifiable for me. I already managed to grab myself another pair of jeans and a new winter coat, so I need maybe a few new tee’s from H&M, a cute dress to wear with some tights, ooh and some new shoes too. And lets not forget a gorgeous bag I’ve seen in Topshop that I must have. Oops, it’s going to be a spendy month.
MORE VIDEOS ON MY YOUTUBE CHANNEL
I’m not sure if I’ve mentioned it on the blog before, but I started my own Youtube Channel! This is because I really wanted to start filming little vlogs that I can look back on when I’m older, and I’m loving the whole filming/editing process that goes along with it. I’m trying to convince the BF to get on there with me, so stay tuned. I think it will be so lovely to capture moments of our lives that we can always re-watch. If that sounds like something you might like, please subscribe!
LEAVING MY COMFORT ZONE
I thrive on comfort in my life, but where I can, I do try to leave my comfort zone and do something totally different that I wouldn’t of thought I liked, and it feels so bloody good. Sometimes there’s nothing better than proving yourself wrong and doing something you didn’t think you could. Recently, at Centreparcs, we did the High Ropes challenge and I’m still so proud of myself for actually doing it. This Autumn I want to push myself out of my comfort zone more, and considering I’m typing this after going to my first blogger event at the weekend, I’m doing pretty good so far!