books on a shelf

 

Self-care and self-developement books are my favourite thing to read, so narrowing it down for this post was so tough! I kind of stuck to a ‘positivity’ theme for this post, but let me know if you liked it and I’ll do a different version in a few weeks sharing some more favourites.

 

THE SECRET
Read this if: you need a boost of positivity.

The Secret is all about the law of attraction, and how if you think and more importantly, live positively, you will attract even more positive things to come. I’ve tested this out, and guys, it does actually work. If you talk negatively, you will experience even more negativity than before. You know how when you’re having a bad day everything seems to go wrong? That’s a prime example of attracting what you are thinking about. You are so focused on the ‘bad day’ you’re having, you’re manifesting more of the same without even realising. Of course life isn’t always a bed of roses but The Secret is about appreciating and never taking for granted the good in your life. I really would say that this can be a life-changing decision if you are serious about it.

 

HAPPINESS IS A STATE OF MIND
Read this when: you seem to be constantly ‘fed up’ or in a funk, and you want to something to bring back the happier you.

This is the most recent read, and I’m just devouring up this book. IT IS SO GOOD. Every page makes you want to hunt out the highlighters so you never forget these nuggets of wisdom. This isn’t a ‘stick your head in the sand and never let anything negative affect you’ book, it’s actually very realistic and acknowledges the fact that it’s impossible to be happy all the time. I’m currently reading one of the last chapters of the book all about being friendly with all of your emotions, not just the good ones. It’s one I’m going to keep on my bookshelf and read again in the future, after I’ve made my mum have a read of it of course!

 

DON’T SWEAT THE SMALL STUFF
Read this: if the little annoying things in life keep dragging you down.

This book is so popular, and for such a good reason. It’s the perfect read to dip in and out of every time you need a boost of motivation or inspiration. Every page is a different topic, such as great ways to start your day and focusing on the little moments of the day, which also means you don’t get a migraine trying to understand and remember all the information and advice, which can happen in some of these type of books. It really reminds you of the bigger picture, and that the fact that they didn’t text back shouldn’t ruin your whole day, you are worth so much more than that.

 

Have you read any of these?

 

berries on tree

 

I’ve spoken before all about why you should meditate, but I wanted to give you a step by step guide where you can start from if you’re a complete beginner.

I know that sometimes it can be incredibly intimidating and the words ‘mindfulness’ and ‘meditation’ is bashed around so often these days, so hopefully this might make it feel more achievable for you or convince you to give it a go if you haven’t felt inclined to before.

  • Firstly, plan ahead and choose a time of day you want to start. Whether that’s before going to work, or after you’ve come home and had a shower, putting it in the diary, (even if it’s just in your head) makes you a lot more likely to actually do it.
  • Start slowly. Personally, I would recommend doing 5 minutes a day 2-3 times a week to begin with. There’s no point rushing off and trying to do 20 minutes if you’re only going to do it once, that’s just not how it works I’m afraid.
  • Pick a type. There’s plenty of different meditations to use out there, you can use guided meditations on Youtube or download apps such as Calm and Headspace, which both have trials for a selected amount of time to get you used to meditating. I would really recommend the Headspace one that runs for 10 days and is free for getting started.
  • Choose your location wisely. If you’re trying it out for the first time, I wouldn’t recommend doing it on public transport or anywhere unfamiliar. You can sit on your bed, or even lie down with your eyes closed (preferably), and focus on the rhythm of your breath.
  • There is no ‘good’ or ‘bad’ meditation. With meditating, we have no labels. Aslong as you focus on your breathing for A SECOND, you’re meditating. There’s no magic trick here. It really is that simple.

 

I hope this has come in handy if you were looking for something along these lines, if you give it a go for the first time I would LOVE to hear how it went?

cup and flowers

 

We are always on our phones, laptops, iPads, kindles, -whatever else there is out there-.

I don’t know about you, but I often get to 4pm when I have a banging headache (not banging in a good way.. in a literal ‘banging’ way) and I end up leaving my phone in the bedroom away from sight and mind for a few hours, just for a little break. I wanted to challenge myself to compile a lil list of 20 things we can do for OURSELVES that don’t involve screens.

  1. Have a hot bath
  2. Meditate
  3. Go shopping! If you ever need an excuse, I’m your gal…
  4. Read an *actual* book. Or magazine, if you fancy.
  5. Build a pillow fort and eat ice cream. (I seriously *NEED* to do this)
  6. Cook yourself dinner and try new ingredients
  7. Workout… but you don’t have to.
  8. Have a cup of tea chatting to a family member <3
  9. Snuggle your dog. As if you needed me to tell you!
  10. Journal.
  11. Clear your mind by making a to-do list for the week.
  12. Mani/pedi time!
  13. Have a nap. Naps are ace.
  14. Explore a place you’ve never been to.
  15. Go for a walk and leave your phone at home. You won’t have any Instagram images but you will have memories.
  16. Go to McDonalds drive through and pick up an Oreo Mcflurry (my personal fave)
  17. Do an adult colouring book, I find them so so relaxing.
  18. Reorganize your bedroom and have a declutter. It’s also an excuse to do Number 3.
  19. Do a face mask- or two.
  20. Buy yourself some flowers, and pick up another bunch for someone else too if you get the inkling! Who doesn’t love a surprise bunch? If only my BF got the hint, ey?

 

 

How do you self-care WITHOUT a screen?

 

sunset

 

Feeling lost is something I know well. When you feel like you’re floating around with no clear path. Unsure which way to turn.

That’s where this post came from.

To remind you that it’s okay to feel lost.

In fact, it could be a good thing. It could lead you to greater things.

There is nothing to feel ashamed about, it’s something every one on the planet has experienced. The people you look up to will have no doubt had there fair share of feeling like they don’t know what to do.

There’s no need to latch onto a direction you’re unsure of. Don’t try to convince yourself that you’ve suddenly found a passion project, for you to regret not patiently waiting for something right for you to come along. There is no ‘quick-fix’. Maybe its something you need to go through.

There’s such a buzz around being a girl-boss these days, which I totally love and talk about too, but we need to acknowledge that its normal to feel lost sometimes too.

I’m not the most patient person ever, if I want something, I usually wanted it 5 minutes ago. But I’m really trying to improve on this quality, because with patience comes trust. Trust in the universe to lead you the way that you need.

We are all on our own journey. Yes, its frustrating that we don’t know all the answers, but maybe we’re not supposed to.

Being lost is okay. Sometimes it’s exactly where we are supposed to be.

Have you ever felt this feeling?

 

I accept that this is a niche post, because I know when some people hear the terms ‘meditation’ and ‘mindfulness’ they want to slam their head against the wall. If thats you, I wouldn’t suggest reading any further!

BUT, if you’re intrigued, I hope this post may convince you to have a little go, if you want.

I have meditated every day for the last 2 years.

I know, it sounds a bit intense. A bit ‘hippy’. 

But if I put that into context for you, maybe it won’t sound as ‘out there’ as it originally did.

One busy morning I managed to sit in bed before getting up for 5 minutes, focusing on my breathing and intentions for the day. One day I only had time for a 2 minute body scan (using the Calm app). One evening before bed I did 10 minutes meditation using my favourite meditation Youtube channel (positive magazine).

Meditation isn’t sat staring at the wall for half an hour a day. Most experts on the subjects say its better to be more mindful throughout your whole day then force yourself to do it, and I completely agree. Any time you can tune into your body and just ‘sit’ without thinking, focus on your breathing, is so worth it for you and your health. Meditation has so many benefits, most of which you can see within a quick Google search, but I only do it because of how it makes me feel after.

I’m rubbish at forcing myself to do things if I don’t enjoy them. I know after I’ve meditated I will feel happier, calmer, more content and at peace. Yup, all that after only 10 minutes.

Its such a massive part of my life now, and I don’t know what I’d do without it.

I’m telling you, its a game changer.

Have you ever meditated or are you not interested?