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You know those days when you’ve been sat refreshing Twitter and Instagram ALL day, usually without even realising it? Or it could be you’re struggling with something and engaging/interacting with others is something you just purely do not have the energy for at the moment? Heres what I do when it happens to me…

 

TAKE TIME OUT

It’s an obvious one, but the first thing I do is put the bloody phone down. Even better, turn it off. Even if it’s just for the majority of the evening, you need to take a step back. I know when I feel like this I get really bad headaches just from staring at a screen for so long, so maybe try un-winding with a hot bath and enjoying the company of your partner or family for the rest of the day. After some self-care you’ll feel ready to get back online again and see what the Blogosphere is up to.

CURATE YOUR FEED

Now you’ve recovered from the overwhelm but still feeling a little ‘ugh’, you need to start thinking about the people you currently follow. Are they positive influences in your feed or do their pictures trigger something in you? Everyone’s content changes and I don’t think there is anything wrong with unfollowing if you can’t relate to them anymore. If this feels too harsh, you could always send them a kind message explaining where you’re at currently, and that you mean no harm.

Everyone has the control over what THEY want to see. Make sure it’s inspiring, not discouraging.

ESTABLISH BOUNDARIES

The final thing I would advise after feeling social media overwhelm, is to establish boundaries. This can mean choosing a specific time that you allocate only to engaging with others, and then logging off and getting on with the rest of your day. I know that I for one have to be quiet strict with myself sometimes so I don’t fall down the hole again, so I try to not scroll before bed and read a book, and will sometimes leave my phone at home if I’m going out for a few hours so I’m not distracted by it.

At the end of the day I think social media is a luxury for us all, and it should add to our lives and enhance it, not subtract and make us feel bad, tired or drained.

You are in charge.

Do you ever feel social media overwhelm?  

 

You guys know I love self-care. And it can change on any type of day, sometimes you need something different than yesterday to make you feel good. Its all about tuning into what your body, and mental health requires in that moment.

Here’s some of my favourite self-care rituals that always keep me going..

 

  • Making a cup of tea
  • Having a hot bath
  • Treating myself to a sweet treat
  • Doing yoga
  • Having a lie-in
  • Getting into bed to relax but not sleep through the day
  • Watching a favourite show
  • Seeing my family
  • Making the effort to wear makeup
  • No makeup days
  • Wearing clothes that make me feel great
  • Not bothering about my appearance
  • Getting lost in a book
  • Turning my phone off
  • Listening to my favourite songs
  • Lighting a candle
  • Eating lots of fruit and veg
  • Connecting with others online
  • Painting my nails
  • Stretching
  • Meditating
  • Playing with my dog on the floor
  • Going for a walk
  • Watching a film I love and have already seen to comfort me
  • Buying myself flowers for no reason
  • Writing in my journal
  • Cooking or baking something for me to eat
  • Getting myself a Starbucks
  • Being silly, laughing, dancing, feeling carefree
  • Looking at old photos

 

Do you do any of these too, is there something else I need to add to my list?

holding christmas mug

 

Being mindful at Christmas can seem a bit of a tough concept to imagine, but really, it only makes this wonderful time of year even better. Here are my tips on how I’m planning on being more mindful this year..

 

Leaving the phone to one side

This isn’t another post to tell you to put the damn phone away, but where you can, maybe leave it in another room for a few hours and spend some quality time with your loved ones. This season only rolls around once a year (great job, Nat) and especially if you love Christmas like I do, I want to make the most of it and not be attached to my phone. I want to experience the magical moments that the festive season brings, and of course snapping a quick picture here and there. And don’t worry about missing out, the majority of your online pals will be most likely having a little break over Christmas too.

 

Taking time for your comforts

Christmas can be a stressful time for some of us, reunited with family members with all different personalities or trying to fit everyone in when the schedule’s busy, sometimes it takes work to make everything run smoothly. When you get stressed, it’s very easy to let your ‘me-time’ slip. Make sure you schedule in some time for just yourself, and enjoy the things that bring you happiness and comfort. Whether that’s reading a book over a cup of tea, or listening to a new podcast episode, it’s important for you and your mental health.

 

Only one day at a time

With all the excitement of Christmas, it’s easy to get ahead of ourselves and think about what we are doing next, constantly. We can have the most exciting plans to really relish the festive season this year, but if we’re not being mindful and living in the moment, it can be such a waste of a beautiful time. Remember to focus on only one day at a time and look for the magical moments everyday, the present is all we ever have, so be appreciative of it and wonder in all it’s glory.

Do you struggle being mindful this time of year?

books on a shelf

 

Self-care and self-developement books are my favourite thing to read, so narrowing it down for this post was so tough! I kind of stuck to a ‘positivity’ theme for this post, but let me know if you liked it and I’ll do a different version in a few weeks sharing some more favourites.

 

THE SECRET
Read this if: you need a boost of positivity.

The Secret is all about the law of attraction, and how if you think and more importantly, live positively, you will attract even more positive things to come. I’ve tested this out, and guys, it does actually work. If you talk negatively, you will experience even more negativity than before. You know how when you’re having a bad day everything seems to go wrong? That’s a prime example of attracting what you are thinking about. You are so focused on the ‘bad day’ you’re having, you’re manifesting more of the same without even realising. Of course life isn’t always a bed of roses but The Secret is about appreciating and never taking for granted the good in your life. I really would say that this can be a life-changing decision if you are serious about it.

 

HAPPINESS IS A STATE OF MIND
Read this when: you seem to be constantly ‘fed up’ or in a funk, and you want to something to bring back the happier you.

This is the most recent read, and I’m just devouring up this book. IT IS SO GOOD. Every page makes you want to hunt out the highlighters so you never forget these nuggets of wisdom. This isn’t a ‘stick your head in the sand and never let anything negative affect you’ book, it’s actually very realistic and acknowledges the fact that it’s impossible to be happy all the time. I’m currently reading one of the last chapters of the book all about being friendly with all of your emotions, not just the good ones. It’s one I’m going to keep on my bookshelf and read again in the future, after I’ve made my mum have a read of it of course!

 

DON’T SWEAT THE SMALL STUFF
Read this: if the little annoying things in life keep dragging you down.

This book is so popular, and for such a good reason. It’s the perfect read to dip in and out of every time you need a boost of motivation or inspiration. Every page is a different topic, such as great ways to start your day and focusing on the little moments of the day, which also means you don’t get a migraine trying to understand and remember all the information and advice, which can happen in some of these type of books. It really reminds you of the bigger picture, and that the fact that they didn’t text back shouldn’t ruin your whole day, you are worth so much more than that.

 

Have you read any of these?

 

berries on tree

 

I’ve spoken before all about why you should meditate, but I wanted to give you a step by step guide where you can start from if you’re a complete beginner.

I know that sometimes it can be incredibly intimidating and the words ‘mindfulness’ and ‘meditation’ is bashed around so often these days, so hopefully this might make it feel more achievable for you or convince you to give it a go if you haven’t felt inclined to before.

  • Firstly, plan ahead and choose a time of day you want to start. Whether that’s before going to work, or after you’ve come home and had a shower, putting it in the diary, (even if it’s just in your head) makes you a lot more likely to actually do it.
  • Start slowly. Personally, I would recommend doing 5 minutes a day 2-3 times a week to begin with. There’s no point rushing off and trying to do 20 minutes if you’re only going to do it once, that’s just not how it works I’m afraid.
  • Pick a type. There’s plenty of different meditations to use out there, you can use guided meditations on Youtube or download apps such as Calm and Headspace, which both have trials for a selected amount of time to get you used to meditating. I would really recommend the Headspace one that runs for 10 days and is free for getting started.
  • Choose your location wisely. If you’re trying it out for the first time, I wouldn’t recommend doing it on public transport or anywhere unfamiliar. You can sit on your bed, or even lie down with your eyes closed (preferably), and focus on the rhythm of your breath.
  • There is no ‘good’ or ‘bad’ meditation. With meditating, we have no labels. Aslong as you focus on your breathing for A SECOND, you’re meditating. There’s no magic trick here. It really is that simple.

 

I hope this has come in handy if you were looking for something along these lines, if you give it a go for the first time I would LOVE to hear how it went?