I should of added the word ‘try’ in the title of this post because sometimes there is no prevention to panic attacks. They just happen.

However for me, they usually occur due to certain situations, which is how I know I can prevent or manage them when they come along.

There are of course, certain situations that I don’t even enter because I know for a matter of a fact, they will happen. But in some instances I can use different techniques and tricks I’ve learned, to make the whole situation a bit better.

 

PLAN

If you know you have something coming up that may occur anxiety or panic attacks, your best bet is definitely planning and preparing for what to do if you have any of those funny feelings.

Sometimes they happen whilst I’m driving in the car with someone else as a passenger, so whilst I drove to Edinburgh with my boyfriend, I had my headphones and podcast episodes ready, so I knew if I needed it I could just plug in and take my mind off feeling anxious whilst my boyfriend could still listen to the radio if he wanted.

If you usually experience them on public transport or crowds for example, take your headphones on your journey with you and download a new album or audiobook to listen to.

USE YOUR SENSES + MIND TECHNIQUES

My therapist taught me all about how the five senses are great at bringing your mind back to the present moment, and can help you in stressful moments.

I personally carry a rollerball with me containing a calming scent, that I like to use to zen out a bit. Sometimes even just thinking about what you’re doing later that day or what you’re eating for your tea really brings you back to perspective and make you realise theres more than just the ‘moment’ you are currently in.

KNOW YOUR LIMITS

This one is probably the most important, because its YOU that has to take control and make sure you are acting in your own best interests.

Like I said earlier, some situations I won’t even enter if needs be, because I know I’m not set out for them. If you have social anxiety, make sure that along with going out of your comfort zone, you don’t try to do TOO many things at once. Slow and steady is great progress. Always try to remember how far you’ve come.

I hope these tips were helpful to you if you needed them! xx

 

 

I’m in one of those moods where I feel a bit low and deflated today. For no reason whatsoever. Aren’t they great?

With that in mind I had the *genius* 😉 idea to compile a list of all the things I do that cheer me up when I’m having a down day.

  • Buying myself flowers. Especially when I get a great deal of peonies for only £3. Aldi, you win.
  • Letting myself eat whatever I want. Which is usually some form of comfort food, and letting that be OKAY. Heck, If I want chocolate, I’m having it, today of all days.
  • Spending time with my family. I love my alone time but when I’m not feeling as great as usual, I prefer to be surrounded by my loved ones. I think it makes me feel less lonely.
  • Cuddling my dog. I do this 98% of the time anyway, but he is just the cutest thing and never fails to make me smile.
  • Immersing myself in ‘something else’. Whether thats watching my favourite Youtubers or reading a book/new magazine, it always brings a bit of s p a c e between me and those shitty feelings.
  • Lighting a candle.
  • Putting on T Swift and having a sing along.
  • Thinking about all the things I like about myself, whether thats me feeling my bone structure that day, or how far I’ve come from.
  • Watching an episode of an old TV show, for comfort reasons. F.R.I.E.N.D.S anyone?

 

I would love to know what cheers you up when you’re having a down day?

As someone who has suffered with severe anxiety I thought I would write this post for anyone out there, who is wondering how to help their loved one on their own journey, just incase you need it. This is only my advice.

 

NO JUDGEMENT

This comes first and foremost to me, because sometimes (well, most times I think) mental health cannot be controlled. They are not acting like this ON PURPOSE. I think many who haven’t had experience in this area think some of it may be attention seeking, or wanting their own way. But trust me, there is no way ANYONE would put themselves through any of this for personal gain. So please try to leave your judgement at the door. It will make it easier for everyone.

ATTENTION

This may differ to everyone, but I know for me, when I have had low days with anxiety I need extra attention from those around me. I need to *feel* supported and looked after. I kind of go back into baby mode (but to be fair, I’ve never left far!)  I get that this requires more of everyone, but if they love you and you explain that you this is what you need to feel a little better, they will help you. Whether thats a few more cuddles in each day, taking care of your dinner, or doing a bit more around the house, it can all add up.

POSITIVITY + AN ACTION PLAN

In my life in general, I like to be surrounded by positive people and energy. Luckily, my mum is one of the most positive people I know. If I’ve had a panic attack, or feeling all mixed up with my emotions, we sit. We talk about it. We find a positive outcome. If its due to something that’s stressing me and making me anxious, how can we make this easier for me? If I’m in a bad mood, why am I feeling like this, have I had enough sleep? Am I taking all my vitamins etc? Creating an action plan with positive steps to move forward with, always makes me feel better. Just make sure you don’t put this across as ‘fixing’ the anxiety! Only creating small baby steps working towards a goal you both think is achievable.

I hope this may of helped you when supporting someone you know who needs it! <3

 

Writing these kind of posts always feel really therapeutic to me. It’s like I have all these thoughts jumbled around my head and putting them into words on a page makes me feel better about things.

With all that in mind, I wanted to talk about over-thinking. 

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This is something I’ve done forever. So much so, it feels natural to me. It was only once my other half said ‘why do you even think about these things’ that I realised that maybe, it wasn’t a good thing!

If I’m anxious about a certain thing coming up, chances are I will lose sleep, predict what will happen and imagine dramatic scenarios for about 2 weeks PRIOR. What a waste of useful energy to harbour.

AND then went the actual event comes up? I’ve built it up SOSO much in my head that it feels about 100x the thing it should be.

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Don’t get me wrong its SUPER hard to stop old habits, but lately when thoughts have been appearing about my anxieties, I’ve STOPPED, took a deep breath and tried to live in the moment. After all, this present moment is the only thing we can be sure about! <3

I’m not perfect at it, but I’m trying.

 

 

Do you suffer with overthinking?

 

 

I wanted to write this post as I don’t think its talked about enough. It kind of ties in with comparison, especially in the blogging world. You see what you call a ‘successful’ blog, and expect the same number of followers as she does, to work with the same brands. The problem with expectation is it doesn’t take into consideration, hard work. You don’t know her story, or how long her blog has been going. So don’t compare. Don’t expect. Just work hard on your OWN goals. Make them personal to you, and strive towards them! We all have our own journey.

 

 

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In other ways, when you expect something from someone, and you don’t get it, you fall into such a disappointed state. Whether thats with a loved one or a person at work, your expectations and over-thinking got you to such a high-elated mood, of course there’s only one way down. If you HADN’T gone this far, you would more than likely just be happy with what ended up. Trying to ‘guess’ never works.

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Expectation has definitely got me good a few times. But now I’m trying to live in the moment and enjoy whats surrounding me RIGHT NOW, it hasn’t seemed to bother me at all.

 

What do you guys think to expectations? Lets have a discussion in the comments below!

xxx