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Feeling lost is something I know well. When you feel like you’re floating around with no clear path. Unsure which way to turn.

That’s where this post came from.

To remind you that it’s okay to feel lost.

In fact, it could be a good thing. It could lead you to greater things.

There is nothing to feel ashamed about, it’s something every one on the planet has experienced. The people you look up to will have no doubt had there fair share of feeling like they don’t know what to do.

There’s no need to latch onto a direction you’re unsure of. Don’t try to convince yourself that you’ve suddenly found a passion project, for you to regret not patiently waiting for something right for you to come along. There is no ‘quick-fix’. Maybe its something you need to go through.

There’s such a buzz around being a girl-boss these days, which I totally love and talk about too, but we need to acknowledge that its normal to feel lost sometimes too.

I’m not the most patient person ever, if I want something, I usually wanted it 5 minutes ago. But I’m really trying to improve on this quality, because with patience comes trust. Trust in the universe to lead you the way that you need.

We are all on our own journey. Yes, its frustrating that we don’t know all the answers, but maybe we’re not supposed to.

Being lost is okay. Sometimes it’s exactly where we are supposed to be.

Have you ever felt this feeling?

 

I accept that this is a niche post, because I know when some people hear the terms ‘meditation’ and ‘mindfulness’ they want to slam their head against the wall. If thats you, I wouldn’t suggest reading any further!

BUT, if you’re intrigued, I hope this post may convince you to have a little go, if you want.

I have meditated every day for the last 2 years.

I know, it sounds a bit intense. A bit ‘hippy’. 

But if I put that into context for you, maybe it won’t sound as ‘out there’ as it originally did.

One busy morning I managed to sit in bed before getting up for 5 minutes, focusing on my breathing and intentions for the day. One day I only had time for a 2 minute body scan (using the Calm app). One evening before bed I did 10 minutes meditation using my favourite meditation Youtube channel (positive magazine).

Meditation isn’t sat staring at the wall for half an hour a day. Most experts on the subjects say its better to be more mindful throughout your whole day then force yourself to do it, and I completely agree. Any time you can tune into your body and just ‘sit’ without thinking, focus on your breathing, is so worth it for you and your health. Meditation has so many benefits, most of which you can see within a quick Google search, but I only do it because of how it makes me feel after.

I’m rubbish at forcing myself to do things if I don’t enjoy them. I know after I’ve meditated I will feel happier, calmer, more content and at peace. Yup, all that after only 10 minutes.

Its such a massive part of my life now, and I don’t know what I’d do without it.

I’m telling you, its a game changer.

Have you ever meditated or are you not interested?

 

Forgive me for sounding like the ending of a One Tree Hill episode, but I believe we all have defining moments in life.

Moments that shape us, that cause us to grow, moments that seem like pinnacle parts of our lives that were supposed to happen.

One of those defining moments for me, was definitely not being able to enter the room where I signed up for university.

That might sound strange, but if you have anxiety issues, you should get where I’m coming from. When I couldn’t force myself to walk in, sit down, and start a brand new life of alone, already having panic attacks and commuting 1 hour away from home, I knew it would be a moment in my life that I would look back on, and hopefully not regret.

And I truly don’t. I got help with my anxiety, and a degree in Accountancy to follow. I knew deep down university life wasn’t for me, but I followed the crowd, and fortunately, backed out at the very last minute (my student loan had even gone through at this point I think, don’t worry they got it all back.).

Another moment that stands out so far in my life, was the first time I tried meditation.

It was something that I was interested in as soon as I heard about it, and I can recall the feeling of absolute peace I felt after I connected with my body, mind and soul for only 10 minutes.

I knew it was going to be a huge part of my life and something that strengthens me, calms me, and is there when I need it. I’ve meditated every day for about 2 years now.

The last moment I want to chat about is, rather soppy.

Its when I first met my boyfriend (well, fiancé). It’s not me being dramatic when I really did think I would be single forever. I was burnt badly from a previous relationship and didn’t want history to repeat itself. But like in all the books and movies say, it came out of nowhere, and when we met I just knew he would be in my life for a reason. It would drive me crazy when people said ‘you will just know’ when you meet The One. But its actually so true, and the best way of putting it.

 

Do you have any defining moments? If you don’t feel like sharing private details if the comments, just put ‘Yes!’ 🙂 xxx

 

 

 

 

 

I should of added the word ‘try’ in the title of this post because sometimes there is no prevention to panic attacks. They just happen.

However for me, they usually occur due to certain situations, which is how I know I can prevent or manage them when they come along.

There are of course, certain situations that I don’t even enter because I know for a matter of a fact, they will happen. But in some instances I can use different techniques and tricks I’ve learned, to make the whole situation a bit better.

 

PLAN

If you know you have something coming up that may occur anxiety or panic attacks, your best bet is definitely planning and preparing for what to do if you have any of those funny feelings.

Sometimes they happen whilst I’m driving in the car with someone else as a passenger, so whilst I drove to Edinburgh with my boyfriend, I had my headphones and podcast episodes ready, so I knew if I needed it I could just plug in and take my mind off feeling anxious whilst my boyfriend could still listen to the radio if he wanted.

If you usually experience them on public transport or crowds for example, take your headphones on your journey with you and download a new album or audiobook to listen to.

USE YOUR SENSES + MIND TECHNIQUES

My therapist taught me all about how the five senses are great at bringing your mind back to the present moment, and can help you in stressful moments.

I personally carry a rollerball with me containing a calming scent, that I like to use to zen out a bit. Sometimes even just thinking about what you’re doing later that day or what you’re eating for your tea really brings you back to perspective and make you realise theres more than just the ‘moment’ you are currently in.

KNOW YOUR LIMITS

This one is probably the most important, because its YOU that has to take control and make sure you are acting in your own best interests.

Like I said earlier, some situations I won’t even enter if needs be, because I know I’m not set out for them. If you have social anxiety, make sure that along with going out of your comfort zone, you don’t try to do TOO many things at once. Slow and steady is great progress. Always try to remember how far you’ve come.

I hope these tips were helpful to you if you needed them! xx

 

 

I’m in one of those moods where I feel a bit low and deflated today. For no reason whatsoever. Aren’t they great?

With that in mind I had the *genius* 😉 idea to compile a list of all the things I do that cheer me up when I’m having a down day.

  • Buying myself flowers. Especially when I get a great deal of peonies for only £3. Aldi, you win.
  • Letting myself eat whatever I want. Which is usually some form of comfort food, and letting that be OKAY. Heck, If I want chocolate, I’m having it, today of all days.
  • Spending time with my family. I love my alone time but when I’m not feeling as great as usual, I prefer to be surrounded by my loved ones. I think it makes me feel less lonely.
  • Cuddling my dog. I do this 98% of the time anyway, but he is just the cutest thing and never fails to make me smile.
  • Immersing myself in ‘something else’. Whether thats watching my favourite Youtubers or reading a book/new magazine, it always brings a bit of s p a c e between me and those shitty feelings.
  • Lighting a candle.
  • Putting on T Swift and having a sing along.
  • Thinking about all the things I like about myself, whether thats me feeling my bone structure that day, or how far I’ve come from.
  • Watching an episode of an old TV show, for comfort reasons. F.R.I.E.N.D.S anyone?

 

I would love to know what cheers you up when you’re having a down day?