Does the world need another blog post on self-care? Probably not. Am I going to write one anyway? Heck yeah.

Because to me, in my life, self-care is so, so important. In fact, I’d go as far as to say pretty vital. Without it, things can soon start to go downwards and you can get to a point where it can feel tough everyday to pick yourself up.

Self-care can also come in so many forms. Both physical, and mental. And also those things that you might not even associate it with either.

Self care can be more than early nights and bubble baths, but it can also be those things too.

Self care can be more than an exercise routine and eating healthily, but they do matter.

Sometimes self-care is making that appointment you’ve been putting off for months, or making yourself go interact with other humans even though you might not feel like it, but you know you’ll feel better after you do.

Self care can be choosing your battles, and self-care can be knowing that they’re sometimes not yours to face.

I make self-care a priority by choice. You can bet at some point in every day, there will be a bit of self-care included. I organise it in my diary like I do everything else.

Do I ever feel selfish by giving myself so much valuable time? Of course, and writing that sentence out sounds ridiculous. Surely I can give myself as much time as I want? Who knows, maybe that’s another blog post in itself.

I hope this post encourages you to think a little bit about your own self-care journey, and maybe you’ll realise how valuable that could be. I think it’s something everyone has struggles with, we’re definitely not alone here.

 

What’s your version of self-care?

 

 

Rewind to last December, I was very happily in what I’d call, a season of rest. Hibernation. Peace.

I was happy to stay at home every evening, enjoy shrinking back a little bit, and spending time by myself (something I am still doing, obviously! I am an introvert after all)

But something feels different lately. After much deliberation, I think what I’m in right now is a season of growth.

IN WHAT WAY YOU ASK? Well, let me explain.

I’m currently uploading every day on my Instagram for the whole of March, which isn’t something I’ve done in years, especially not creative photography. It’s really taking me out of my comfort zone in many ways, and I feel like I’m putting myself out there online in a way I haven’t done before. Of course at times this feels pretty terrifying, but I feel like I’m on a cusp on something quite exciting. And hopefully, something I can start building more of my life around.

I’m also working through the Dream Life book by the founder of Kikki K, and let me tell you, there’s nothing quite as overwhelming as thinking about what your dreams are. No boundaries. No limits. Dreaming without restriction. Things are cropping up that I never even realised I truly wanted, but it feels so good, and extremely cathartic. Kind of like positive therapy! I’m planning a whole post on this once I’ve finished it, so keep your eyes peeled if it sounds up your street.

The last thing that really has truly opened my eyes and somewhat, world, is completing my first long haul flights. I’ve never been an amazing traveller, and never in a million years did I think I could do an 8 hour flight, and even somewhat enjoy it. I feel so excited now to think of where we could go in the future. Places far away like New York & Canada, and also places I want to visit in Europe such as Italy and Paris. It really has opened up my universe, and I feel proud of how far I’ve come.

So yes, that’s it basically. I’m in a season of growth. Which in summary, sometimes feels horrendous and so vulnerable, but is also a place that feels important for me to find comfort in. And thank you for always following me along the way.

 

Are you in a season of growth like me too?

 

 

I go in waves with creativity. Sometimes I find that the more I use, the more I have. And then other times, I panic and feel self-doubt that maybe all my good ideas have been done, and there’s nothing left in the tank.

I think it’s so unique to everyone, but today I wanted to share some tips incase you feel in a creativity rut like I’ve been in many times before (it sucks, I know) but hopefully these might help you in a way.

 

Look at your past work. You’ve done it before, you can do it again. Take a moment out and look at what you’ve already achieved, whether that’s how many blog posts you’ve published, the pictures you’ve taken, or the wonderful comments you’ve received.

Reframe your mindset. Maybe it’s not creative block, maybe it’s a little bit of boredom? Doing the same thing over and over again can feel tiring, so mixing things up can leave you feeling so much better, and re-ignite that passion you already have.

Inspire yourself. Search out new people to follow online, listen to that podcast you seem interested in, or finally buy that book you’ve been wanting. I’m giving you permission, do it!

Try something different. It’s time to pick up that new hobby you’ve been dreaming about! Interested in painting but haven’t touched a brush since year 8? Now is the time. Get out of your creative comfort zone and realise how much there is left for you to gain.

Take the pressure off. Okay, you’ve tried everything else on this list and it’s still not working. Go hit the brakes and take a day off, or several. Putting pressure on something only makes it feel worse, so quit the negative self-talk, and put it out of your mind. Go for a walk, spend time with the family, or chill on the sofa with Netflix and chocolate.

 

Personal recommendations from me:

  • Elizabeth Gilbert’s Big Magic is an amazing book in my eyes, and I’d recommend it to everyone who likes to live a creative lifestyle too. Her podcast is also so so good too.
  • Some of my favourite Instagram creatives are @allthatisshe @siennaandi @kerryvillers @kutovkika @misskatyenglish and many many more. Go check out their feeds and be inspired.
  • Going for a walk in nature always helps me and clears my head, making me feel refreshed and reset.
  • Sometimes you just need to get your bake on! I can go weeks, even months without baking if I’m really busy, but once I do it again I realise just how much I enjoy it, and how great it feels to make something with your own hands.

 

 

How do you re-ignite your creativity?

 

Lets be totally honest here, there’s gonna be a lot more than 3 things that I need to let go of, but these are pretty big (read: huge) things that I’ve been trying to unpick for a while, and I wanted to share them with you today because I think they are applicable to us all in some way or another.

None of these things are something that’s going to happen overnight, but every day I’m going to work on them, slowly but surely.

 

Pressure.

I never realised how much pressure I put on myself until the veil lifted a few months ago, and boy, is it quite something. Am I being a good sister/daughter/wife/? Do I eat too much sugar? Am I *doing* enough? I’ve been working to erase this with positive affirmations, and reminding myself that everyday I’m just doing the best I can. There is no need to put myself under boundaries of what I should or could be doing. I am enough, I have enough, and I do enough, something I try to say to myself whenever it feels like I’m struggling.

 

Control.

I like control. There, I said it. I like routine, I like to manage plans and know that everything is all set in the right place. But of course, life sometimes has other ideas. And when you let go and succumb to the flow of life, which sometimes is magical and others, not so great, you step back and see the bigger picture. There’s nothing to control in the first place. This is something I still need to work on, but I think I’ve made big steps over the last year and I’m proud of how it’s going. Granted, I’m not quite there yet, but maybe I’ll never be, but I’m going to keep trying, because it really does feel like a weight off my shoulders when I release and let go.

 

Old habits/thoughts.

Ouch, a biggie for me. I’d like to think I’m a positive person overall, but sometimes you don’t realise how negative your self-talk can be, and just how easily it seems to come without you even noticing it. Again, this is something I’m working on with my positive affirmations. I know it’s going to take quite a while to improve, but in this case I really believe small steps are the way forward. Self-love is such a massive topic, and in my opinion, probably a life-long commitment. I really want to be kinder on myself and make it a priority, and when I do focus on this, it honestly makes such a difference and I’d recommend it to everyone.

 

Things that help me in letting go:

  • Being in nature
  • Focusing on my breathing, and being present.
  • Positive affirmations
  • Yoga
  • Meditation
  • Having an evening routine
  • Listening to my favourite playlists
  • Cups of tea and moments of gratitude

 

What do you need to let go of?

 

It’s been a few years since I completed Yoga with Adriene‘s January challenge, (doing yoga every day for the whole month) so I was a little nervous at the start of this journey, whether I’d be able to complete it without feeling like I needed a day off, or how I’d fit it in if I really wasn’t in the mood to get my mat out.

DID I COMPLETE IT?

Thankfully, I’m very happy to say I loved every part of it, and I’m so proud of myself that I finished it!

That’s not to say some practices weren’t exactly what I wanted on that particular day, or that it felt easy to fit it in after a super busy day, but I really committed to this journey, and I was adamant that I would finish it as a little promise to myself.

HOW DID I GET ON WITH IT?

I’ve practiced yoga for about 4 years now, and I use Yoga with Adriene’s regularly so I knew what to expect, but I feel like over this 30 days, I’ve noticed such a difference in my body, it feels much more toned, and in my practice I feel a lot stronger than I did before, and also my mind. Having that time to myself every single day to focus on just myself was quite a relevation, and something I don’t want to give up on just yet.

WHAT WILL I DO NOW?

I definitely don’t plan on giving up on an everyday practice for the time-being, and I think I’m going to continue doing the February calendar on Yoga with Adriene, I’ve seen theres a few 10 minute practices which will be great to fit in on honeymoon, and I really want to continue having that time for just me to focus on my mental and physical health.

If you want to know more, I shared my practices on my Instagram stories, which I’ve highlighted under ‘yoga’

 

Have you ever tried 30 days of yoga?