DEFINING MOMENTS

 

Forgive me for sounding like the ending of a One Tree Hill episode, but I believe we all have defining moments in life.

Moments that shape us, that cause us to grow, moments that seem like pinnacle parts of our lives that were supposed to happen.

One of those defining moments for me, was definitely not being able to enter the room where I signed up for university.

That might sound strange, but if you have anxiety issues, you should get where I’m coming from. When I couldn’t force myself to walk in, sit down, and start a brand new life of alone, already having panic attacks and commuting 1 hour away from home, I knew it would be a moment in my life that I would look back on, and hopefully not regret.

And I truly don’t. I got help with my anxiety, and a degree in Accountancy to follow. I knew deep down university life wasn’t for me, but I followed the crowd, and fortunately, backed out at the very last minute (my student loan had even gone through at this point I think, don’t worry they got it all back.).

Another moment that stands out so far in my life, was the first time I tried meditation.

It was something that I was interested in as soon as I heard about it, and I can recall the feeling of absolute peace I felt after I connected with my body, mind and soul for only 10 minutes.

I knew it was going to be a huge part of my life and something that strengthens me, calms me, and is there when I need it. I’ve meditated every day for about 2 years now.

The last moment I want to chat about is, rather soppy.

Its when I first met my boyfriend (well, fiancé). It’s not me being dramatic when I really did think I would be single forever. I was burnt badly from a previous relationship and didn’t want history to repeat itself. But like in all the books and movies say, it came out of nowhere, and when we met I just knew he would be in my life for a reason. It would drive me crazy when people said ‘you will just know’ when you meet The One. But its actually so true, and the best way of putting it.

 

Do you have any defining moments? If you don’t feel like sharing private details if the comments, just put ‘Yes!’ 🙂 xxx

 

 

 

 

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  • This is such a nice post. Anxiety can be so restricting in what you can do, so it is amazing that you have been able to look back at overcoming it as a defining moment. Meeting my boyfriend is one of my defining moments too. We have been together for nearly six years and I feel so lucky! x

    • Wow six years is awesome, congrats! Thank you so much for liking the post!

  • I agree with you, we definitely all have defining moments. I think there are two big ones I can think of – Meeting my husband and getting on the plane to live in Australia for a year. Both changed my life so much and I’m a different (and I like to think better) person because of them!
    Jess
    alrightblondie.com xx

    • Wow, that sounds incredible! Thanks so much for sharing them <3

  • I absolutely loved reading this post, and definitely agree we all have defining moments. Meeting my fiancé is definitely a key defining moment, as was when he recently proposed to me and probably when I first went to university in 2010. Also, are you a One Tree Hill lover too? Haha, had to ask after you mentioned it.

    Kristy | http://www.thevioletblonde.com

    • Of course, I loved it so much back in the day! I really watch to re-watch it sometimes. Your moments sound awesome! xx

  • Ah yes! It is so important to remember and cherish those moments. I have a few, but my favourite (and soppy) one is when I decided to actually say yes and go on a first date with Matt (my brother taunted and kept saying ‘foreverrrr alooooone!’) so I just went for it. 3 years later and I we are still so happy. <3 Immy x

    http://www.immymay.com

    • That’s incredible, sometimes you just have to go for it don’t you! x

  • Diana Maria

    Aw this was so inspiring girl! I too have anxiety and it often makes me do the opposite where I back out of things I truly love, but I know now to push through the fear- just like you did! I’ve always heard that saying that you’ll just know, so that inspires me to think it will come one day, when I least expect it! This was a great read xx

    Sending light & love your way,
    My Lovelier Days

    • It used to bug me when people said it, but it’s so true! And it’s always when you least expect it! x

  • I think life is all about defining moments. One of mine was after I had been very ill for two years, and saying no to doctors when they wanted to put me on even more medication. I decided to take my health into my own hands, listen to my body and do some research. I am so glad I did as it completely changed my life and my health.

    Peta x
    http://www.pe-ta.com

    • Oh my word that is incredible! You should be so proud of yourself xxx

  • Amy Eade

    I definitely have a fair few defining moments – in fact probably too many to think of! I think any moment where your life could have had a completely different outcome is defining. I need to give meditation a proper try, I just can’t switch my brain off!
    Amy xx
    http://www.callmeamy.co.uk

    • I’ve got a post coming up about what meditation has done for me, it might tempt you to try it! xx

  • What a lovely post! I definitely feel like I have a few defining moments – meeting Rob is obviously one, but a massive one for me is the moment I decided to quit my job and go travelling alone. It’s not necessarily just about the travelling aspect (although that part was obviously wonderful) but it was the moment I realised that I could be independent and in control. It was the most wonderful, liberating, proud feeling and is still the best thing I have ever done for myself xxx

    Sophie | Sophar So Good

    • What an incredible achievement that is! It’s something I know I would really struggle to do but I can only imagine how amazing it was! xx

  • I love this post, so original! I have definitely had some defining moments in my life. One of the strongest ones was way back when I was doing my GCSEs. It was when my anxiety was at its worst. I couldn’t leave the house at all (so I couldn’t go to school, learn or revise), and one of the deputy headteachers told me I wasn’t allowed to take my exams in certain subjects because I was “too ill” and “didn’t know my own mind”. Well that was absolute rubbish and gave me SO much passion to say screw you to him and I forced myself to go into that school and do those exams. I ended up taking them whilst lying down on a stretcher because I was so close to passing out from panic. In the end I passed all my GCSEs and even got one A* and 5 As! I was so proud of myself for achieving that despite the hell I’d gone through and it showed me that I can achieve anything, even if my mental health is terrible. Had I agreed with him, I wouldn’t have been able to go to sixth form, or to go to uni. I’m now about to go into my third year of uni and couldn’t be happier with how it’s all turned out! xx

    bexmoore.com

    • Oh wow what a story! Massive WELLDONE to you for proving him wrong, that’s incredible xxx

  • Congratulations on being engaged, in case I haven’t said so already, a very interesting read. Makes me think about my own defining moments, thank you for sharing. Lots of love x

    ALittleKiran | Bloglovin

  • This is such a lovely post – I love the defining moments idea! I think we all have things that shape us into who we are and these things will change over time. I dropped out of university last September and it was absolutely the right decision for me! I don’t think it’s defined me but it’s definitely made me more aware of myself and the important things in life!

    madi x

    madiwilliams.com

    • University definitely isn’t for everyone! Having the courage to decide that is so important! X

  • Zara

    I’ve always wanted to get in to meditation but I find myself doing it properly for a few days then forgetting about it for weeks and weeks after! Do you do it at the same time every day so that if becomes a part of your routine? It’s something I think would really help me! x

  • I think it’s so lovely that you and your boyfriend have such a beautiful connection and I’m delighted that you have moved into a better relationship. The two of you look adorable together 🙂 x

    Alice // The Rose Glow

  • This is a great post. I was going to write a post similar to this one soon! About life changing moments. i have got to do that!