HOW TO SUPPORT SOMEONE WITH THEIR MENTAL HEALTH

As someone who has suffered with severe anxiety I thought I would write this post for anyone out there, who is wondering how to help their loved one on their own journey, just incase you need it. This is only my advice.

 

NO JUDGEMENT

This comes first and foremost to me, because sometimes (well, most times I think) mental health cannot be controlled. They are not acting like this ON PURPOSE. I think many who haven’t had experience in this area think some of it may be attention seeking, or wanting their own way. But trust me, there is no way ANYONE would put themselves through any of this for personal gain. So please try to leave your judgement at the door. It will make it easier for everyone.

ATTENTION

This may differ to everyone, but I know for me, when I have had low days with anxiety I need extra attention from those around me. I need to *feel* supported and looked after. I kind of go back into baby mode (but to be fair, I’ve never left far!)  I get that this requires more of everyone, but if they love you and you explain that you this is what you need to feel a little better, they will help you. Whether thats a few more cuddles in each day, taking care of your dinner, or doing a bit more around the house, it can all add up.

POSITIVITY + AN ACTION PLAN

In my life in general, I like to be surrounded by positive people and energy. Luckily, my mum is one of the most positive people I know. If I’ve had a panic attack, or feeling all mixed up with my emotions, we sit. We talk about it. We find a positive outcome. If its due to something that’s stressing me and making me anxious, how can we make this easier for me? If I’m in a bad mood, why am I feeling like this, have I had enough sleep? Am I taking all my vitamins etc? Creating an action plan with positive steps to move forward with, always makes me feel better. Just make sure you don’t put this across as ‘fixing’ the anxiety! Only creating small baby steps working towards a goal you both think is achievable.

I hope this may of helped you when supporting someone you know who needs it! <3

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  • missgetaway

    Oh this is so important! As someone who struggled with mental health issues all their life I can totally relate. So often people misinterpret the situation or don’t know how to handle you. Thanks for spreading the word.

    love, kerstin
    http://www.missgetaway.com/

    • I know it’s hard for others who have never experienced it to understand, but sometimes we can only control so much of it xx

  • Such a caring and understanding post. I’m glad you’ve got a good support system around you for your journey through anxiety. Xx you make excellent points xx

    Best wishes . . .
    Keep Calm and start writing –
    http://www.23millymay25.blogspot.co.uk

  • Yes Natalie! This is so on point. My anxiety has improved recently, but all these points are exactly what I needed my boyfriend to know! I think for someone who has never experienced a mental health issues, it can be difficult to know exactly what to do. Attention, patience and understanding goes a very long way. Immy x

    http://www.immymay.com

    • I know, my other half is the same but he is so so supportive xx

  • Diana Maria

    Thank you so much for this! My ex is experiencing a lot of this recently, and at the beginning I was so upset because I thought it was my fault. I felt used, and also responsible for the way he felt. I know that’s not the right way to go about it. I think once you deal with your emotions, you have to really realize the person is going through a tough time, and all they need is support. You’re right about no one purposely putting themselves through something like this- that’s something I need to remember. This was more helpful than ever to read! I struggle with anxiety and know how difficult it can be, I wish you all the best with everything lovely xx

    Sending light & love your way,
    My Lovelier Days

    • Oh that is such a shame, I hope he gets some light soon. All you can do is be there for him! xx

  • Such a thoughtful post Natalie and i think its something a lot of people need to know since so many have mental health problems and need support. I myself am all good but i know what it feels like to be with someone who is depressed and I felt so helpless xo

    Sinead | Dreaming Again

    • NatalieLeanne

      Thank you so much for reading! x

  • Soph Cullen

    I feel like this is such an important post!

    sophiejc.blogspot.co.uk

    • NatalieLeanne

      Thanks girl! x