Sit down guys, I feel like this is going to be a long one.

I’ll start by saying that I definitely was one of those little girls who dreamed of the big white weddings when I was younger. I wanted Prince Charming, horse and carriages, and the biggest dress I could find. I wanted all the attention of the day to be mine, and I of course would be relishing in it.

Now fast forward 24 years later, and I’m a lot different with my approach to our wedding. I don’t want a particularly poofy dress, I don’t want lavish celebrations, and most definitely for everyone’s attention to NOT be on me. Maybe other introverts feel me on this?

I’m not an outgoing person, and much prefer being by the sidelines. Thats why we are opting for a small, intimate ceremony, and a bigger party afterwards. I feel like the most important part is where you actually get married, and I don’t want a list of extended relatives I never see (nor really know me as an adult) to be the faces I glance when I’m walking down the aisle. It’s such a personal moment to me and Dan, and I don’t want to involve people who don’t need to necessarily be there to see it.

I will only have my sister as my maid of honour, plus little cousins as bridesmaids. I’m doing my own makeup. I’m not paying thousands of pounds for a dress I will wear once, (but I’m looking forward to trying them all on that’s for sure!). We sent a ‘save the date’ TEXT (how 2017 of us) and our invitations are from Paperchase.

We have quite a fancy venue, but will be cutting the costs down (don’t start me on favours- do we *need* to have them?), and we primarily chose it because I really want to get married outside next summer. There are definitely some things we still need to finalise as we are quite picky about spending our money on tat. (This is mostly me to be honest).

I guess what I’m saying is that I want to be a low-key bride. We’re not doing things the ‘traditional’ way that you may expect, and that’s how we like it. And if people have a problem with that? Pah, not your wedding 😉


Whats your thoughts on being a low-key bride? Tell me your thoughts!

  • I am not engaged but I think I would be the same, I hate attention and photos and cameras on my face and I would be so worried about how I look and how I am acting. I turn completely hopeless when there is a lot of attention on me so I am genuinely hoping to elope and get married in the Maldives in the presence of about five people. If anyone deigns to ask me. Good luck with your wedding plans! I am excited to hear more about it xxx

    ALittleKiran | Bloglovin

    • Thank you so much, eloping did seem like a good idea I’m not going to lie! x

  • I love the last sentence – I think exactly that, it’s your day and you do what you want with it. And that applies whether what you want is a low-key, intimate thing, or a really big, glittering celebration, or eloping to another country just the two of you…and everything in between 🙂 Also, Paperchase do lovely wedding invites so I bet they are beautiful! Can’t wait to hear more about your wedding plans gal xxx

    Sophie | Sophar So Good

    • Thank you so much, I already can’t wait to write up my next post! x

  • It sounds like a lovely wedding is in store Natalie, I couldn’t agree more with you on wanting an intimate ceremony with the most important people present.
    Peta x

  • Amy

    I loved this post Natalie! I’ve never been someone who planned my wedding growing up and since getting engaged I’ve found the whole thing very overwhelming. We’re going for more of a relaxed day too and I am so with you on the dress front – so much money for one day!

    Amy | http://www.whatamydid.com

  • I love your take on this as it’s something that gets lost in the madness of wedding planning sometimes. It seems that people forget the big picture and what it’s all really about. I’m planning a fairly big wedding (I consider it big anyway, we’re having around 140 people) and I feel like I’ve been quite chilled out about the whole thing. From the start I’ve always tried to focus on the most important part – the fact that we are actually getting married!) although I have to admit there have been a few times I’ve justified a few crazy purchases because “it’s my wedding!” haha :p
    There’s actually a great podcast I’ve been listening to called The Bridechilla Podcast. It’s hosted by an Australian comedian living in London and she talks about a huge variety of different topics “wedding planning without the bullshit” as she describes it. I’d really recommend it!

    Lauren xx

    • Ooh I would love to hear about your crazy purchases! I will definitely check that podcast out, thank you! xx

      • Haha – mainly just things like shoes or random things like really pretty (and rather pricey) ribbon from etsy that I normally wouldn’t have justified! I’m hoping to film a few wedding related videos for my YouTube channel so if I get time I’ll probably chat about some of those fun (but kinda unnecessary) purchases! Hehe 😛

  • I think you’ve got the perfect ideas for your wedding. Low key can be just as special, if not more so! As someone I know wisely said, a wedding is one day, a marriage is the rest of your life! You’ll be a beautiful bride, and the day has to be what makes you and your partner happy and comfortable. It’s your day, so it’s your way! Intimate and special to you both.

    Best wishes!

    Keep calm and start writing ~

  • I love this! I had a pretty low-key wedding too and it was great. The actual marriage is so much more important than the party and while the party is super fun, I love that you’re focusing on the meaningful stuff!

    • Aw thank you Laura! And thanks for the lovely comment!

  • I love the idea of a more low-key and non-traditional wedding. Your thoughts on it sound perfect! I’d honestly rather have an open bar to get everyone drunk than spend thousands on a dress I’ll never wear again, ha!

    Milly // mini-adventures.com

  • Diana Maria

    This is such a great post Natalie! I feel the same way for the day that I do get married, I’d like it to be small and intimate. I get so awkward when all attention is on me, but also I’d just want the closest friends and family there. It sounds like you’re going to have a lovely celebration that focuses on what truly is important! xx

    Sending light & love your way,
    My Lovelier Days

  • I’m not sure if I’m one to actually get married, but I think if I ever do it’ll be beyond low key! You gotta do you!

    Sharni xo
    A Girl & Grey

  • It sounds like a really positive approach to getting married! It should 100% be about getting married and not all of the hectic planning and spending lots of money. I used to really want a big wedding up until quite recently when I read about how your wedding day shouldn’t necessarily be about catching up with old friends and relatives but about being united with those closest. It makes completely sense to only have those closest there! I’m excited to read more of your wedding content!

    Blushing Lately