I’m a massive ‘what if’ kind of person. I’ve always been a very deep thinker, but over the last few months that seems to of been magnified and I can spend days, even weeks thinking about how a situation could of been worse, or imagining a scenario that makes me stop living life the way I want to.
This is something I’m working on, so I wanted to share what I’m focusing on to combat this incase you needed it too.
It doesn’t change anything
Worrying doesn’t change a situation. We all know this of course, but we still do daily. Not only is it a massive waste of our valid time, but it also affects our bodies and minds negatively. We break out, we lose sleep, our bodies feel stressed and anxious. It can damage our relationships and our general wellbeing if we let it get to that stage.
None of these things have to happen, and they won’t if you change this thinking pattern.
Instead, be pro-active about the things you can change. If a work situation or relationship issue is causing you stress, address this in the best way you see fit so it can be let go of. You don’t need to carry it around with you. Once you have found a solution, you can be free from it.
You can’t control life
For someone who loves control, admitting this is scary and leaves me feeling vulnerable. But it’s SO true. There is a no rule-book for life, you don’t know what’s going to happen, and not everything is in your control.
Accepting this fact will make your life so much easier, and you will feel more liberated. ‘We can’t control the waves, but we can adjust our sails’.
People have influence- Don’t spend too long around dwellers!
I’m sure we all know a few Negative Nancys. Sometimes they can feel like a drain to be around if everyone you meet they tell a tale of woe, never mind how they never even ask how YOU are!
The company we keep is detrimental to our mental health, so make sure you surrond yourself with positive and inspiring, enthusiastic people. That way you don’t come away from feeling drained, and stuck in a loop of negativity.
And if you can’t cut all ties completely, remember that their thoughts do not have to be yours. You are the only person who can control how you live, and if you want that to be positively, it can be. It’s your decision.
Do you every worry about ‘what if’?