I’ve never realised before that I’ve always judged how far I’m going, and especially the good in what I’m doing, by comparing it with other people and their own journey.

And as scary as writing that sentence is, it’s really made me realise how stupid it is too.

Something I often forget is that we are on our own journey. Of course we can connect and relate to one another, which is a wonderful thing in itself and makes us realise we aren’t alone in our struggles, but we all have our own path filled with things that are so individual to us.

Although we may be similar, various parts of our lives may be completely different and we are all coping with entirely different things, so how silly would it be to compare your career path, blogging goal, or follower count to that of another. You never know what is going on behind that girls Instagram grid or struggles are behind that smile.

For me recently, a productive day looks a lot different than it did before. It doesn’t mean rushing around doing 3 different jobs, a gym session, cleaning the house and a food shop. It could mean getting out for a walk or doing something successfully without my anxiety. Sometimes it might even mean just getting out of bed and getting dressed.

Remember that you must always go at your own pace, don’t compare your life to another as that would be an injustice of yourself. You are here to carve your own path and be your own person. You were made for that specific reason. How wonderful is that?

Remember that we are all on our own individual journey. Life isn’t a competition with other people.

Go at your own pace.

There’s no rush.



Do you struggle with going at your own pace?

  • This is something that I definitely tend to struggle with – the feeling of “not keeping up” can be a dangerous one! x

    • Definitely, comparison is so pointless sometimes, especially if we don’t use it for motivation or inspiration as it’s meant for I think x

  • Thank you for this reminder. A productive day for me is definitely different than what others may assume to be productive! Everyone is different.

    Madison | Breakfast at Madison’s

    • Totally, and we all are at different stages in our lives too x

  • This is really important to me; I always get caught up panicking that I don’t want to be stuck in a 9 to 5 job but it’s reminders like these that make me remember that it doesn’t have to be this way – great post 🙂

    Alice // The Rose Glow

    • I could personally never do a 9-5 as it wouldn’t suit my abilities or lifestyle! You’re definitely not alone xx

  • This is something I need to learn. I am one of those people who if I haven’t filled my day with a million and one things ticked off a to-do list then I feel like the day has been a total waste. I have never been able to consider a slow, me-time filled chill day as a productive one, usually it only happens after I’ve totally burnt myself out. I don’t even know who I am trying to keep up with most of the time!

    I need to stop and take it slow!

    Sarah 🙂
    Saloca in Wonderland

    • How great is it that you have recognised this though? Now it’s come to your attention, you can start making changes for the better of yourself and your lifestyle 🙂

  • I loved this Natalie. Everything you touched upon is SO true.
    Lately I’ve felt like I’ve been in some kind of funk where even getting out of bed and getting dressed is difficult. Then when I see others busy lives on social media I feel bad and compare myself to them, but I need to remember we are all different and not to compare with others (even though it is so easy to do)!

    Sophie x | http://www.snippetofsophie.com

    • Oh I’m there with ya gal! I always try to remind myself that we all are at different stages in our lives too, they might of gone through what we are going through a few years ago x

  • This is so true, but definitely something I think we all need reminding of. It’s so easy to compare ourselves to everyone else when we’re stuck refreshing social media, but we’re all doing okay.

    Tori | JustTheBeginning-x.com

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  • This is such a great reminder for going at your own pace. This is something I’ve been thinking a lot about lately and I was getting myself so down about not getting things done quickly and comparing myself to others. Everything you say is so true, we all definitely need to go at our own pace and not rush things! x

    Kayleigh | http://www.anenthusiasmfor.co.uk

    • Comparison is so silly isn’t it? I always have to keep in mind that you never know what’s truly going on in social media unless someone shares it! x

  • This is something I try to remind myself of every day. It’s way too easy to constantly to compare yourself and what stage you’re at to others, when really we need to focus on ourselves and celebrate our successes x

    Jenny | Luxestyle

    • Definitely! I always think that we all go through our own stages too, it’s totally individual! x

  • Amy Eade

    I need to remind myself of this more often, it’s so easy to become overwhelmed when you look at Instagram and think everyone else has it sorted! We definitely need to focus on ourselves and what success means to us as it’s so different for everyone!
    Amy xx

    • It is isn’t it? We are all different but the same after all! 🙂 X

  • clapping so loud for you. this post is so good, friend.

  • This was such a lovely post! I totally agree with going at your own pace. I always compare myself to others (who doesn’t) but like you said people’s lives are not always perfect. Everyone has areas they are not happy with and perfection does not exist so we should just enjoy what makes us happy! xxx