THE PROBLEM WITH EXPECTATION.

I wanted to write this post as I don’t think its talked about enough. It kind of ties in with comparison, especially in the blogging world. You see what you call a ‘successful’ blog, and expect the same number of followers as she does, to work with the same brands.Β The problem with expectation is it doesn’t take into consideration,Β hard work. You don’t know her story, or how long her blog has been going. So don’t compare. Don’t expect. Just work hard on your OWN goals. Make them personal to you, and strive towards them! We all have our own journey.

 

 

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In other ways, when you expect something from someone, and you don’t get it, you fall into such a disappointed state. Whether thats with a loved one or a person at work, your expectations and over-thinking got you to such a high-elated mood, of course there’s only one way down. If you HADN’T gone this far, you would more than likely just be happy with what ended up. Trying to ‘guess’ never works.

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Expectation has definitely got me good a few times. But now I’m trying to live in the moment and enjoy whats surrounding me RIGHT NOW, it hasn’t seemed to bother me at all.

 

What do you guys think to expectations? Lets have a discussion in the comments below!

xxx

 

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  • I think that many people set the bar too high in terms of their own goals and dreams and when it leads to being unsuccessful, it makes them think that it is failure. I’m trying to work on this element and turn it into a positive experience. As in I could learn from my mistakes and having high expectations and instead just be happy with the present!

    Lovely post πŸ™‚

    Fatima x http://www.fatimawrites.co.uk

    • Yes, those things are sent to us for us to learn from definitely πŸ™‚ xx

  • Yes this is so true! I am awful at this, I have found recently that I am much happier when I don’t invest so much of my time into others (i.e scrolling Instagram / browsing YouTube for hours on end!) I feel far more in the present and feel proud with what I have achieved, rather than constantly comparing it to the people around me! Immy x

    http://www.immymay.com

    • Oh comparison sucks SO bad! It’s so pointless too! xx

  • I find getting the motivation to blog SO much harder if I put a tonne of expectations onto myself as well as onto what I’ll get out of blogging. It can sometimes be so frustrating to see someone with a similar number of (or fewer) followers than you getting brand collabs, but this post is SUCH an important reminder to not get downhearted about it

    Steph – http://www.nourishmeblog.co.uk

    • Totally! If I set myself a goal of writing a certain number of posts a week I just wouldn’t be able to get the words down, or worse it would be forced. All opportunities come to us when we need them πŸ™‚ xx

  • I know exactly what you mean about expectation having got you good a few times – it has me as well! I am awful for setting myself up with an expectation, only to be disappointed if I fall short of it and you’re right, it’s totally linked to comparison. The more I compare myself to others, the unhappier it makes me! Focusing on my own life and goals is something I really need to work on though…
    Gorgeous photo by the way!
    Sophie xxx | Sophar So Good

    • It’s so motivating focusing on your own goals and working out steps how to achieve them! πŸ™‚ xx

  • Francisca

    So, so true Natalie! Sometimes we get so wrapped up in other people’s success and we forget to look at and appreciate our own. We never know what other people have gone through to get where they are today, comparing ourselves to others is so draining! x

    Francisca | http://www.franciscamay.com