THE THINGS I HAVEN’T POSTED ON SOCIAL MEDIA

 

If you guys follow me on online and read this blog, you’ll know that I love doing personal posts, and I try my best to be 100% honest and authentic. It is so important to me.

For me, I want to read blogs that speak of substance, that have things to say, and that doesn’t apologise for it. I always strive to publish content that I love and that I think might help anyone out a bit. Whether thats a new beauty product I love or how I’ve dealt with panic attacks. So with that in mind, I came up with this post.

 

 

These are all the things that I haven’t posted on social media.

  • Due to my anxiety and fear of flying, we’ve missed out on 2 holidays this year. This was a very low and testing time for me and my boyfriend, but has ultimately brought us closer which I’m thankful for. I really try to see the positive in shitty situations. Some times you have to look harder, but it helps.
  • Even though I’m happy with my body, I still have days when I want to stay in bed and eat kitkat chunkys. I feel like most people get this too? If not, everyone!
  • I sometimes feel uninspired with my place here on the internet and wish I had the follower amount of a ‘bigger’ blogger. I know this is kinda bad to say, but sometimes it’s true.

 

 

  • I have two part time jobs and this blog (which I don’t really earn much/if any for), but I worry a lot about money.
  • I want to make blogging my full time career, and I hope I can get there one day.
  • My family are my best friends. I don’t really have ‘friends’ which does make me sad some days, but unfortunately I’ve drifted away from people of my past and haven’t had many opportunities to meet any new ones. Finding friends in your 20’s is freaking hard.
  • I sometimes put too much pressure on myself and forget how far I’ve come, on those days I need to remember that I’m still the same girl who couldn’t leave the house once.
  • I have a very spiritual side that I don’t tend to share too much on the internet
  • Sometimes I get caught in the comparison trap, then feel stupid when I remember that we all are differentΒ for a reason.

 

This was very scary to share, but I feel like a weight has been lifted from my shoulders!

What to you think to people sharing on social media? Should they keep some things to themselves or is it nice to see a vulnerable side?

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  • This has to be one of my fav posts lately! Because it’s real, raw and from the heart ❀️ I can totally relate to some of these, and find myself in similar situations especially with the blogging life. You are beautiful πŸ’— Inside and out, flaws and all xox

    • Wow thank you so so much! I always try to write how I feel xxx

  • Loved how honest you were in this post, it’s so authentic and refreshing. Thanks for sharing how you feel with us, I can totally relate to some of the things you wrote. And girl, we your blog readers are your friends! πŸ™‚
    Coco Bella Blog

    • Thats so sweet, I love having all of you guys πŸ™‚

  • I think it’s refreshing to be vulnerable and real online. I don’t think people should air dirty laundry on social media but sharing personal thoughts that we’re all probably feeling makes them seem less daunting. It’s so easy to fall into the trap of thinking about followers but I think the engagement is more important! Slow and steady wins the race, I’m sure you will be a full time blogger one day! x

    http://www.bethwaldron.co.uk

    • Definitely! That’s so true, I need to just stay in my own lane and focus on what I’M doing! x

  • So, so lovely to see you share your feelings so openly and all the little snippets that make up ‘you’. It seems we have a lot in common. You sound so lovely to me and your blog has just soared so much. And that’s because of your time, energy and who you are. Well done!! I just know you’ll get there. If it’s any consolation, my family are my friends too, and I don’t go on holiday, as leaving my home, horses and familiarity just makes me feel too uncomfortable!

    Bestest wishes in everyway. You’re going to make it! You already are. Xx

    Love milly,

    Keep Calm and start writing ~
    http://www.23millymay25.blogspot.co.uk

  • This is such a lovely post! I am sorry that you missed two holidays, but I am happy it brought you and your boyfriend closer. I’m in the same situation with the friends thing, so I definitely understand where you are coming from, it is so hard xx

    Hannah | luxuryblush

    • At least with the blogging community I feel like I have so many online friends!

  • Hi, girly.
    Thanks so much for keeping it real! I feel like we are very similar! I really admire you for sharing your struggles. I can also relate to the fact that my family members are my best friends. It IS hard to make friends in your 20’s.
    Hugs <3
    Madison

    • Aw thats awesome! Thank you so much for reading, I thought I was totally alone in those thoughts!

  • I love reading true, honest posts like these and I think it’s really brilliant to share something like this! I too have drifted away from friends and I can totally relate to what you say about finding friends in your 20’s and I’ve felt really down about it myself too. Thanks for sharing this post x

    Kayleigh | http://www.anenthusiasmfor.co.uk

    • At least we both have the blogging community which is so supportive and awesome right! πŸ™‚

  • Loved this post and I think all of us smaller bloggers want to grow our following, so don’t worry. It’s just honest : ) x

    Tiffany Tales | Lifestyle & Beauty

    • Thank you Tiffany, I feel so much better after sharing! x

  • I am sorry to hear what you are going through but I am happy you are sharing it. I think sharing and just getting out helps immensely, otherwise it can feel like you’re pretending to be someone else online at least that is how I felt. I am so proud of you, I work a lot as well and blog in my scarce spare time and it can be a lot to put on yourself but you’re sticking at it and everyone loves your blog so be proud of it and give yourself a break once in a while. I love Kit Kat Chunkies, hope you have a great week xxx

    ALittleKiran | Bloglovin

    • Thank you so much Kiran for such a sweet comment. Aren’t we always so hard on ourselves? We need to take our own advice that we give to others! Now I want a kitkat πŸ˜‰

  • Honestly, I relate to this post so much, I often wish I had more followers etc, I feel like sometimes trying to make it in the blogging world is like trying to wade through thick mud.
    The main thing that stuck out for me is the friends thing, I relate so badly to this, I don’t really have any friends, and you are absolutely right, the older into our 20’s we get the harder it seems to be able to make friends, and often this makes me feel really down. Sending you big hugs xx

    • I definitely feel the same, but I try to focus that its something that I started doing for myself, and thats why I continue to share! I’m sorry you feel this way too, I feel like becoming more active with the blogging gals on social media has really helped me feeling less lonely xxx

  • Well done for writing such a brave, honest post Natalie – it really does take guts to put yourself out there on the internet but at the same time it’s so important to see realness from people and I bet you will find that loads of people relate to different points you have made. I totally know what you mean about making friends in your twenties, I am lucky to have friends from school who I still see aged 27 but I have no idea how people meet new friends at this age, it seems impossible! I haven’t made new friends in years (although I feel like lots of bloggers are almost my friends, so you have lots of blogging pals :)). Sorry to hear that you missed those two holidays but it’s wonderful that you are able to find positives in that situation. I struggle with body confidence a lot, which might seem strange given how many fashion posts I do of me posing in clothes, so I really understand the feeling of just wanting to stay in bed and eat chocolate and crisps and am often very unkind to my own body. Lots of love, you’re wonderful xxx

    • Thats incredible, those will definitely be friendships that you will treasure forever! I love the blogging community, I honestly feel like I have friends with you lot! I’m sad you struggle with it too but I think we all do don’t we? I have a list on my phone all about physical and mental attriubites that I like about myself xxx

  • sophielaetitia

    I loved reading this post. I felt like you were describing me for most of that! I have a fear of flying too (amongst many other things) and sometimes I feel so controlled by my anxiety. I also worry about money. I used to be an accountant and whilst this was probably a “better paid job” I am more happy now and so I have to remember that when I think about the £££’s P.S. I’ll be your friend hehe!

    • I’m thinking about going on a fear of flying course to see if it helps! Happiness is KEY! xxx

  • Amy Eade

    Well done for sharing such personal things Natalie, it’s so important to stay real and authentic (although I always think if there are things you don’t want to share with the internet that’s totally fine!) I love your Instagram for the authentic captions – you’re definitely very relatable and this post just makes you even more so! I’m lucky that I have some friends from school and some at work, but at the end of the day family is the most important so they’re definitely the most important friends to have πŸ™‚
    Amy xx
    http://www.callmeamy.co.uk

    • Thank you for such a lovely comment Amy! I love chatting to you on Instagram xxx

  • This is such a brave and honest post – it must have been so hard to write and publish so well done! I totally agree/relate to so many things on this list. The thing that we’ve all got to remember is that so many of us feel the same way at times and you’re never alone in your feelings! this is something that I’m realising. It makes such a difference to open up to people and family is so important!
    Madi xxx

    madiwilliams.com

    • I totally forget that- sometimes it feels like I’m the only person feeling this way but you’re so right, we are all never alone! And what a wonderful thought that is πŸ™‚ xxx

  • I loved reading this honest post! It’s such a refreshing change to be able to relate so much. Thank you for sharing the bit about your family being your best friends. I’m the same exact way and it’s hard in your 20’s when it seem like I’m the only one. It always nice to know that we’re not alone, and that most people feel the same way! x

    x Kara | http://karascloset.net/

    • I would of never expected it, but its true! How nice to know its a battle we are definitely NOT fighting alone xxx

  • Kim

    I love honesty in blog posts! If anything, I related to every single thing you’ve mentioned and now it makes me realize that we are all human. We all have ups and downs, which is why we should all be nicer to each other (in person and online).

    Kim
    Simply Lovebirds

  • I relate to so much of this wish I didn’t. Anxiety is getting me down right now and stopping me from doing things x

  • IsobelleJane

    Beautiful post, I’m sure so so many people will relate to this πŸ’•

    Emily
    https://beautyaboveandbeyond.blogspot.co.uk