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Social media is such a huge part of my life, and I’m sure yours too, that it’s bound to have it’s good and bad moments, like everything in life does. Today I’m talking about by far the most positive thing I love about it, and the side that affects me negatively too.


Connecting with others…

As I touched on in this post, connecting with other people is definitely my absolute FAVOURITE thing about social media. I feel like I would be pretty lonely without Instagram and Twitter as its where I share my thoughts (aside from the blog) and read about the lives of my favourite online people too. It never fails to make me smile when I write a lengthy caption and someone lets me know that they relate in some way. I love it when I see pretty pictures that inspire me and make me want to re-create with my own version, and I love hearing about peoples everyday life in their captions. Instagram is the best platform to connect with others on, in my opinion.

For someone who works at home a lot and doesn’t have many real-life friends, its a lifeline for me that I never want to break.

The comparison trap…

I think the word ‘trap’ is so appropriate here, because once you fall down the comparison loophole, it can feel like you’re not getting out for a while.

This is something I think practically everyone suffers with on a weekly basis. I know I do. I think it’s just human nature to have a look around and see what others are doing, but when we start comparing OUR numbers to theirs, how many comments we get vs how many they do is becomes so debilitating to our mental health. We never see the bad parts of their days, how long they’ve been blogging, or what other life drama they have going on at the minute. I’m pretty sure they will be comparing themselves to others too.

To try and get out of comparing I think its important to not focus on any numbers, even on your own. Focus on the people who show you their support, post whatever feels right to you, and remember there’s also a life offline to be living too.

How do you feel about social media?

  • Ah eventhough I don’t mean to I always tend to compare myself to others! Social media can be tough at times.

    Candice | Beauty Candy Loves

  • Ugh, comparison trap is the worst! I *know* comparing myself to others will make me feel worse, and yet sometimes I just can’t stop! I do love social media, and it’s brought so many good things into my life, but I need to learn how to deal with the bad parts of it better! xx

    Laura // Middle of Adventure

    • Its a nasty little circle isn’t it? I always try to focus on the positives, and that everyone has a different type of audience. For instance if they are a beauty blogger they will have more followers that love beauty posts, whereas I have an audience that enjoys more lifestyle content and wouldn’t want that to change! xx

  • You’re right, comparison ‘trap’ is the perfect word for it and a regular struggle! I do enjoy social media and getting to know some lovely people is a real highlight, as well as trying to create nice things to post, but I’m quite bad at dealing with the not-so-good parts of it and often feel like I cant get any headspace. Luckily there are people like you on there to remind me why I love it 🙂 xxx

    • You are such a babe! I hope you’re having a RELAXING holiday gal xxx

  • Amy Eade

    I’m so bad at falling into the comparison trip especially lately but I’m trying to not focus on the numbers and focus on what I enjoy which is engaging with others like you!
    Amy xx

    • Its so tricky, I wonder what it would be like if we couldn’t see ours or anyone else’s number count! xx

  • I feel the exact same way! It’s a minefield, social media, but it’s also amazing too xx

    Charlotte / Colours & Carousels

  • Diana Maria

    This is all so true! There is so much good with social media, and there will always be darker sides but I think balance is truly key. I definitely fall victim to the comparison trap too, it can be hard not too! Lovely post Natalie 🙂

    Sending light & love your way,
    My Lovelier Days | Bloglovin’