As someone who has suffered with severe anxiety I thought I would write this post for anyone out there, who is wondering how to help their loved one on their own journey, just incase you need it. This is only my advice.
This comes first and foremost to me, because sometimes (well, most times I think) mental health cannot be controlled. They are not acting like this ON PURPOSE. I think many who haven’t had experience in this area think some of it may be attention seeking, or wanting their own way. But trust me, there is no way ANYONE would put themselves through any of this for personal gain. So please try to leave your judgement at the door. It will make it easier for everyone.
This may differ to everyone, but I know for me, when I have had low days with anxiety I need extra attention from those around me. I need to *feel* supported and looked after. I kind of go back into baby mode (but to be fair, I’ve never left far!) I get that this requires more of everyone, but if they love you and you explain that you this is what you need to feel a little better, they will help you. Whether thats a few more cuddles in each day, taking care of your dinner, or doing a bit more around the house, it can all add up.
POSITIVITY + AN ACTION PLAN
In my life in general, I like to be surrounded by positive people and energy. Luckily, my mum is one of the most positive people I know. If I’ve had a panic attack, or feeling all mixed up with my emotions, we sit. We talk about it. We find a positive outcome. If its due to something that’s stressing me and making me anxious, how can we make this easier for me? If I’m in a bad mood, why am I feeling like this, have I had enough sleep? Am I taking all my vitamins etc? Creating an action plan with positive steps to move forward with, always makes me feel better. Just make sure you don’t put this across as ‘fixing’ the anxiety! Only creating small baby steps working towards a goal you both think is achievable.
I hope this may of helped you when supporting someone you know who needs it! <3